Sister Sandy,

I hope all goes well for John. Again, I'm comparing TBI's and stroke recovery. Could it be that John is finally on his journey to acceptance? I can remember how hard it was to hear how bad my deficits were and with what I had at that point how I would never work, drive or be able to stay alone. I was devastated by that news. But they were wrong except about the driving. At least I wasn't male and had all the male macho BS to live up to or overcome.With his being a Longshoreman, that sounds like a man's man kind of world, I don't think acceptance will come easy or serenely for John or you.

But hey there is always EBay to sooth you! :roflmao:

I'm not making light of any of this. I've told you, I don't know how you deal with all you do. But no matter how hard John struggles or resists acceptance or medical retirement, it all will be better in the future.

Have a chocolate Martini :cocktail: I'll join you with a smoke and a mudslide. :oohlala: :cocktail:

Hugs

Pam

Sister Pam

if this is John's journey to acceptance, it sure is an interesting one. Wednesday eve he came home from work and said that he is not going back to work. Thursday eve he said that the job had suddenly gotten more demanding and very difficult (he usually spends 5/6 hours that he actuallly works in the break room reading, sleeping, or watching Jerry Springer, or going to AA meetings in NJ with his longshoremen friends), so he is glad that he's takinbg a 6 month break. today i called him after i had found a receipt for $50 worth of clothing in astore he goes to to get work clothes; he told me that they were for two pairs of gloves. one of them work gloves.

"why do you need work gloves? you are only working one more day", said i.

"i can use them when i get back", said he.

"you told me that you were never going back to work", said i.

"i never said that", said he.

and so it goes.

funny thing about macho, though...

if a man speaks his mind, is forceful, etc., he is known as assertive(aka real man)

if a woman speaks her mind, is forceful, etc., she is known as aggressive(aka bitch)

let's run away to a Mallomar factory :bouncing_off_wall:

sandy :giggle:

Sandy,

john has been in the program a few weeks now, and i was wondering how he was making out. i obviously am not familiar with Mount Sinai's program first hand, but if it is modeled after kessler's...we have a whole chunk where we work on interpersonal difficulties and skills that may need to be relearned after a TBI.

hope it is going well him and that he is benefitting ~ it takes some time, but it works.

maria