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MY NEW MAN


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OK. I AM LIKE LIZ TAYLOR. I WANNA MAN, AND I MARRY HIM RATHER THAN "LIVE IN SIN" LOL LOL LOL .

 

I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 3 TIMES, ( 4 COUNTING AN ANULLMENT), AND BELIEVE IT OR NOT, I HAVE A TWENTY NINE YEAR OLD WHO WANTS TO TIE THE KNOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM 43. MY BEST FRIEND FROM HIGH SCHOOL ( WHO HAS NEVER BEEN MARRIED) SAYS, " GOOD GOD KIM, EVERYONE YOU DATE ASKS YOU TO MARRY THEM".....LOL LOL LOL .

 

 

 

 

WHO KNOWS WHY. I AIN'T THAT PRETTY OR NICE, I GUESS I AM JUST NOT AS BAD AS THEIR EXES.. LOL. I DUNNO. HOWEVER, THIS TIME I AM MARRYING FOR A DIFFERENT REASON. THIS MAN IS MY BEST FRIEND.

HE ALSO HAS A TBI, LIKE I DO , AND LIFE TOGETHER IS SO PEACEFUL AND RELAXING. SO WHEN WE ASK THE SAME THINGS OVER AND OVER, WE DON'T GET MAD. HE DOES'N'T CHASTISE ME WHEN I FORGET STUFF EITHER, NEITHER DO I HIM.

 

 

WOW, ARE THERE REALLY SECOND CHANCES?

 

 

 

KIM :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance:

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Kim, I wish you all the success in the world with the love in your heart. That's what counts the most. Once the bow is made, the knot is tied, put some super glue on it, once it dry, you are stuck.

 

You are still one behind me, not counting one comon law case. I try to not think about. Life is what it is no matter how we handle it.

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kim

 

when i kicked my ex to the curb and out of my house in 1999 i lived without any man except for my male cats (2-one died and was replaced by another male) until i met my current husband in 2002. i end relationships when i decide that i would be better off being alone than being with the man in question. if something happened to my relationship with John it would not be because i met another man, and i would be alone with mycats again and be reasonably content, as i was between my marriages.

 

when i was between human husbands, i developed a special bond with one of my male cats, and i preferred his company to most of the men who were interested in me. i suspect, if i am no longer married to John, and if Marmaduke is still alive, i will feel the same way.

 

a woman does not have to measure herself by whether or not she is in a relationship. i can stand alone as a person without a man. i would rather be in the company of my friends and my cats than with some male loser.

 

that being said, i hope that you can find happiness within yourself, with or without a man.

 

sandy

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welcome Back and Great to see you again.

This is my 4th marriage... I was married as a teen (which totaly did not work) I was a widow at 29, remarried .. for 11 yrs...then divorced..

 

John and I will be together 15 yrs this summer. I expect to be with him to the ....end..... he is also my best friend.

 

Here's wishing you the best!!!

 

Bonnie

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Listening to all you guys, I'm really happy I had the common sense not to marry the first few people who asked me. Think of all the money and trouble I saved not having to get multi divorces. :D I say we should pass a law making everyone wait until they are old enough to live totally of their own for at least 10 years before they marry. Separate houses and long courtships rule!

 

Jean

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i also did not marry the first two people that asked me. the first jerk who asked me actually took me to court to get back all of the gifts that he had given me, claiming that they were "engagement" gifts and that i broke our "engagement." fortunately, my dad went with me to court, and the judge happened to be his "see-you" (exclusive) customer at Barney's New York, an exclusive men's clothing store in NYC that my dad was top salesman at for many years. the judge took one look at my dad and threw the case out.

 

sometimes i wish that i never would have married my ex, because he cost me a small fortune to support him and then get rid of him. however, if my ex was not suffering from poly-substance dependence, i never would have gone to Al-Anon, where i met most of my current realtime friends and my current realtime husband.

 

although i met and married both of my husbands within one year of meeting them, i agree with Jean and think that long, realtime courtships should be mandatory. i'm not sure of separate houses, though...separate rentals are MUCh cheaper than separate ownerships (houses or apartments,) except in NYC, where everything's expensive.....

 

sandy

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Jean:

 

just wondering aloud, does long courtship gurantees successfu marriage. I marrid my hubby meeting him after 2 times, and I think personally by adjusting to quirks of others and supporting one another in every situation is reason for successful marriage and forgiving one another and moving on. I feel you can't have happy or successful marriage if you keep two separate account.

 

Asha

 

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Asha,

 

Committment to one another and to keeping the marriage healthy and happy are the important issues, in my opinion. It sounds like your marriage has that and so does Don's and mine.

 

I do think that if someone has been married and divorced several times that they need more than the average length of time for courtship in the future so they won't repeat history again. There is a big difference between lust and love and some people can't tell the difference and time will help tell the difference.

 

Jean

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Jean

 

i think that you are right for many people, but some people rush into "quickie" marriages, sometimes again and again, because of extremely low self-esteem, a feeling that they will not get anyone better, etc. my ex looked like a frog on his best days, and i certainly didn't lust after him. i thought that, sinnce he was intelligent, Jewsih, and a professional, i could never get anyone better, because many men did not want to get romantically involved with a woman as smart as i am. i didn't want to deal with all of the unresolved issues that i had about intimacy and relationships that i brought from my dysfunctional childhood.

 

my current husband, John, i certainly DID lust after, but he's so sexy that i can't help it!

 

if i ever become unmarried again, i will be living together with the other man in my life. my formerly male cat Marmaduke (the one here or one of his spiritual descendants), for the rest of my days. we will move into an assisted living community with all of my female friends and sit on the porch in rocking chairs, smoke, and pinch the attentdants' butts as they walk by.

 

sandy

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Sandy

 

Can I move into that assisted living community too? That butt pinching and rocking sound pretty good.

 

Jean

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Jean

 

you and Pam are automatically included in my assisted living community. anyone else has to apply by just asking me. i already have some of my realtime friends going there as well. we just have to find an assisted living community with a nursing home attached that doesn't have attendants that look like frogs.

 

sandy

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0k, i deserved that (those) comments. i agree with jean. i also might add..... no one should be married ( or allowed to be ) until they are 30.

still, that would give me a count of 2 not counting the one coming up.

 

 

 

i agree with sandy ( always do) it is most likely a case of low self esteem. at any rate, i am willing to " go for it again". i still have 4 times left in alabama, and six in kentucky. lol. seriously, i only want to have a life partner and be loved. i hope that this time is the last.

 

 

kim

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LOL BILL.

 

I THOUGHT IT WAS YOU TOO, WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN? YOU WENT OUT FOR GROCERIES LAST NIGHT AND I HAVEN'T SEEN YOU SINCE???????????????????????

 

KIM :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

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