V

I think that is a terrific idea. Having been a business owner I know what it's like trying to find good people. Sometimes people with medical problems are so afraid they don't have a chance. Good luck I hope she works out for you.

Lynn

VICKI,

THAT IS SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SWEET AND THOUGHTFUL AS WELL AS PERCEPTIVE OF YOU. I AM NOT THE LEAST SURPRISED THOUGH, THAT'S THE WAY YOU ARE.

I SENSE THERE IS SOMETHING SHE IS "ASHAMED OF" OR HIDING AS WELL. I SENSE THAT YOU ARE RIGHT. LET ME KNOW.

LOVE YA

KIM

If she is a survivor I can understand her not wanting to mention it. I am a RN and have been out of work for almost a year, I was going to apply somewhere else instead of going back to my old job (docs said to stressful)...Anyway I want to be treated fairly and not judged because I had a stroke. I don't have any visible deficits but do suffer from the muscle fatigue which makes writing look like-"chicken scratch"-, or frequent headaches, and fatigue.

It becomes a double ended sword sometimes because I find I do want to shout I HAD A STROKE so leave me alone, while others I yearn to be the old me.

I am sure you will be fair in your decision, if she wants the job reguardless if she is over qualified I think she should get a shot. It maybe less demanding and something that she feels she can handle. As most survivors she may just want to get back to some form of normallacy...not to mention money at any rate is good. One thing I have learned through this experience is when it comes to working do something you love and exciting without get stuck in a rut because tomorrow "AIN'T" guaranteed.

sgriffin :Good-Luck:

Maybe this woman read a topic on this website that came up a few months ago. It was about the pros and cons of telling a prospective boss if you had a stroke or not. Most survivors said don't tell or it's none of their business. A few said to tell only if the job involved life or death issues.

Good luck with your decision.

Jean

shelia,

what great advice. with my new job, i was totallly a big fat liar "aka omitter of the truth", till the general manager said".. you were recommended by your boyfriend's father. how did you meet with you being from alabama" this is in kentucky"

i said, ok, " we met over a year ago on a support site for bascially brain injured people." she then asks..." are you brain injured"? i gave her a very very brief storyand know what she said?......" and you wanna work here?"

so, while i may feel judged and inadequate, at least she knows.

i feel better

kim

Vicki,

I wouldnt ask. What if she hasnt had a stroke? Does she really need to know you ahve had a stroke. I hope she has a second interview for the right reasons.

If she is OK for the job well take her on regardless of her qualifications or her health.

I am way over qualified for my job.....I took it prestroke because it fitted in with my family commitments. Now it suits me because of health reasons.

I am too tired to explain more, just my gut instinct.

JMHO

Mary

If you really like her and feel she would fit in, then I think it's agreat ideal you have. you must be really interested in her to give her a second interview. Letting her know you have days thta are not so great is giving her a heads up and explanation of who she will have to work with and at the same time, if she has some medical problems may give her the confidence that she can tell you.

Bonnie

Well Kid's - She's not a survivor. And I scared her off in the most pathetic way, telling her that I was one.

She panicked. Really, panicked....

She said (direct quote) " I don't know CPR, I'm not good in a medical emergency, I would only call 911 if someone told me to"

She went on to tell a story about how her daughter fell out of a tree and broke her leg, and how her neighbor had to call the ambulance and stay at the hospital to handle things until her husband arrived.

Well, I don't think, even if she was perfect in every other way, she'd be the right person to be MY assistant.

I gush blood with a paper cut (from the plavix) - I can't imagine asking her to get me paper towels and a band aid - lol I think I'd bleed to death.

~V

I AM SO SORRY

YOU WERE TAKING A CHANCE, BY BEING EMPATHETIC, AND IT BACKFIRED. I STILL SAY THERE IS "SOMETHING" NOT QUITE RIGHT ABOUT HER. BETTER TO FIND OUT NOW I SAY.

YOU GO GIRL

LOVE YA

KIM

Well V, you found out she isn't the right person for your assistant...

It is sooo hard hiring people..

Hang in there.

Bonnie