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Much to "blog" about nothing ...


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Ok so, Shakespeare can sue me for my title ....

It's been a rough day.

 

I'm behind again at work, and too tired to deal with half the bs that goes on in the office. If our GM takes one more Friday afternoon off - I'll personally kill her. This comes from someone who hasn't taken a lunch hour in 7 years, and I've had one week of vacation TOTAL in twelve years! Yes, my family goes on vacation - (when I'm attending a convention or education seminar - for work!)

 

Don't start Pam - you know I can't retire!

 

BUT, I'm tired of being tired! Some days it's just a struggle to get to 8 pm. My mind is exhausted and my body is a wreck. I still have to deal with: the laundry - the kids - the husband - the cat - the dog - the house - etc. etc. etc., every night when I get home!

 

It's gotten so bad, I shower at between 3 and 4 am - (when I wake up from leg cramps) and then try to sleep for another hour or two - - - ok, I'm probably "preaching to the choir" here.

 

But, I'm tired of being "Super Survivor" - I'm giving the cape back to Kristen, it belongs to a CG, someone who cares about making the world a better place!

 

Today - I got home to socks on the floor, dishes in the sink, and a dirty towel hanging on a cabinet handle in the bathroom.

 

I'm not ready to make the bathroom a better place - much less change the world.

 

I know, it's my personal "pity party" and I know "it's much to "blog" about nothing"... but would any of you like to clean the bathroom?

 

~V

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V,

Come and join me and we can party together. :beer: I know how you feel and like me you deserve a pity party. Some days it just never seems to end and there is always something that needs to be taken care of. Don't you just wish we could do one of those Queen for a day things and someone would wait on us and take care of everything? Dreams can't hurt. Hang in there.

Lynn

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Vicky:

 

maybe I married right or hubby married wrong, I never had to worry about anything in household chores, we both finish them off together, and I have been promising myself that I will clean our bathrooms, but before I get to it, hubby finishes off and I m not into I want this way or that way as long as it gets done, I don't care how it got done

 

 

Sometime it also makes sense to outsource some of those jobs, maybe you can call cleaning lady twice a month, you can afford it, its not that bad at all

 

hope tomo is better day for you

 

Asha

 

 

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Vicki-

You and I both know you won't quit your job, but-does your family? All BS aside, what would they do if you told them you felt over-whelmed, over-worked and over-tired, and therefore was considering quitting? Would they believe you, and would it be enough to shake things up to lightening your load?

 

Alot of times people get so used to having a "superwoman/superman" doing it all that they don't even consider alternative options. Why should they- they've got you!

 

Maybe if you scare the begeezes out of them with the thought of having to REPLACE you, that when you mention "that maybe you could stay if you had more time to take care of yourself" (or whatever) that this may seem very do-able after considering the alternative.

 

I won't say much more on the particular topic, but I agree with Pam :).

 

BTW, I am doing the working, taking care of kids/husband, house, etc. etc. AND I HAVE NOT HAD A STROKE. I don't know how you are doing it. My capes off to you.

 

Kristen

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I am here for the pity part too... to lend a shoulder or ear and sih out some {{{{HUGS}}} have always been pretty good at hugs...

 

Maybe a family meeting and say superwoman cape is broken..

here is a chore list.. one for J one for Ryan.

 

also meeting at work.. this is what i can do this is what i need help with.. or I will have another stroke or mental break down and then you will be up a creek with out any paddles....

 

Stick up for you.... I have learned/ stil learning to say NO or I can't.. doesn't go over as badly as you think...and solutions do come up

 

Stand up and get that red hair fired up sis..

Bonnie

 

 

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Honestly where is this all going to get you? We've got to speak up when its too much or else we'll again be found laying on our backs counting hospital tiles.

 

I'd got fired up ticked last night when my hubby joking (he better have been) like "maid go get us that cherry pie" with my 15 yr old son laughing for all he's worth(example of why men do not have ovaries). Needless to say I cleared my plate and most of the items off the dinner table and they all got their own pie!

 

But I was the sap who cleared the pieplate out of the living room this am from last night only cause I can't stand seeing stuff like that sitting around. I know FlyLady says no whining but I think its fair to go on strike when things are really out of wack...

 

Now is that time dear! It won't put them in the hosp only maybe us "selfless silly do it all women"...they don't do it nearly all for us???? THEY ALL SO DAMNED SPOILT THEY DO NOT KNOW IT- ALL OF 'EM

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Vicki,

 

I cant add anything constructive but so know how you feel :Tantrum: :Tantrum:

 

 

 

Let me know what the answer is :im stupid:

 

 

Mary

 

I love the new smilies

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Vicki,

I won't start cause you and I will never see eye to eye on this. But I have to point out woman, besides the people depending on you and the money, what are your real reasons for doing it? It isn't for the glory of being superwoman is it? Cause I know from experience it isn't worth it. In 10 years you being this superwoman won't even be a dim memory for most people. Just you as you knit baby booties in the rocking chair on the verandah of the home.

Pam

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VICKI,

 

I COMPLETELY IDENTIFY WITH YOU AS WE ARE CUT FROM THE SAME CLOTH. WE DO NOT WANT "GLORY", WE WANT EVERYONE AROUND US TO BE LIKE US. IE: HAVE PRIDE IN THEMSELVES, THE APPEARANCE OF THE HOME, ETC. HOWEVER, THEY DO NOT.

 

I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT THAT IT ISN'T " BECAUSE WE DO IT ALL", THEY REALLY DON'T CARE. PEOPLE HAD TOLD ME ( PRE STROKE)..." JUST STOP DOING IT, IE: COOKING, LAUNDRY, CLEANING ETC... THEY WILL DO IT THEMSELVES"

 

 

WELL, AFTER A YEAR OF PRACTICALLY ***KILLING *** MYSELF POST STROKE , TRYING TO KEEP UP, I QUIT. I GAVE UP. FINALE'. MY SPOTLESS HOME TURNED INTO A JUNK PILE. THE LITTER BOXES OVERFLOWED. DIRTY DISHES EVERYWHERE. LAUNDRY STACKED SO HIGH I'D RATHER BUY NEW TOWELS THAN TO WASH THE ONES I HAD. OH, THEY STILL ATE ALRIGHT, FROM CARRY OUT, AS MY HUSBAND WAS TOO LAZY TO DO ANYTHING FOR HIM, HIS DAUGHTER, MUCH LESS ME.

 

IT WAS SO DEPRESSING TO HEAR HIM SAY" KIM IS GOING THROUGH A PHASE, SHE'LL SNAP OUT OF IT". I HATED EVERY SINGLE MINUTE OF THE DISSARAY OF MY HOME AD THE DOWNRIGHT SLOBBISM HE EXDUDES. IT WAS THE END OF ALL ENDS OF A HORRIBLE TO BEGIN WITH MARRIAGE. I KNOW, YOU HAVE A GOOD MARRIAGE, I WAS JUST TRYING TO MAKE A POINT. EITHER THEY CARE OR THEY DO NOT.

 

SORRY YOU HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS, IT IS SO HORRIBLE AND TIRESOME TO BE THE ONLY ONE TO "DO IT ALL".

 

 

 

LOVE YA

KIM

 

 

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