hey survivor:

I also went through lot of why and I too really blessed by loving husband who decides to stick it out with me in my new me when I had given him real good reason to leave and he still decide to stick by, he says would we had given up our child if something happened to our child, we are in it for good, I strongly believe our marriage has become much more stronger after my stroke, I finally grew up and happen to realise what really love means, when I go through lot of why, thinking this gives me peace that everybody goes through some problem and this is mine, and I also start counting my blessings and my pain goes down, I have read couple of good books and gave me peace, maybe you should try them

1. rippel effect

2. embraced by light both by betty j. eadie

Asha

I too want to add us to the list of marriage survivors...Almost 21 years and still going....He stayed with me each and every day for seven weeks between hosp and rehab. On the days he was at work, after work he drove the 100 miles round trip. Even during a whopper of a snostorm. I'd even kiddingly insulted him a couple of times during rehab in therapy, when they had me repeating words, just joshing him. But he stuck with me through thick and thin. It makes me feel now that all of us wife survivors owe them our best recoveries cause they were with us at the worst of times and they and we owe ourselves now to be the best "new" us we can be.... :Clap-Hands: :Clap-Hands: :Clap-Hands: Now when I feel crabby or grumpy, I try not to take it out on anyone. I try to think of how lucky I am to be here and sharing this time with this individual..(damn that E>L>-even this thought is making me tear up!)- how am I ever going to get through graduation!

HELLO AGAIN ASHA!!

I WILL TRY AND READ THOSE BOOKS.. THANKS. WE BOTH HAVE REALLY BEEN BLESSED BY LOVING HUSBANDS. I'M SURE THAT YOU AND I WILL KEEP IN TOUCH... TAKE CARE.

:big_grin: SHERRY

I too want to add us to the list of marriage survivors...Almost 21 years and still going....!

HELLO THERE. MY HUBBY AND I DON'T HAVE 21 YRS. INVESTED, BUT ONLY 5 YRS. I HOPE WE CAN MAKE IT THAT FAR. I'M SURE WE WILL, WITH SUPPORT FROM EACH OTHER.

HE HAS BEEN THERE FROM DAY ONE. THROUGH 2 HOSPITALS, A NURSING HOME AND ALL THE REHAB. I KNOW HOW STRONG OUR LOVE IS. HE WAS MISSING ALOT OF WORK AND THE BOSS GAVE HIM AN ULTIMATUM. HE SAID CHOSE YOUR JOB OR YOUR WIFE. HE SAID HE WOULD NEVER PICK WORK OVER ME. HE HAS A NEW JOB. HE IS MUCH HAPPIER. HE WORKS FOR HIMSELF. WHEN I NEED HIM, HE CAN BE HOME RIGHT AWAY. :cheer:

I GET GRUMPY ALOT. THE DOCTORS TELL ME IT'S NORMAL. BUT I TRY AND UNDERSTAND ALL THE LITTLE PROBLEMS. THEY SEEM SO UNIMPORTANT NOW... I GIVE HIM ALL THE LOVE I CAN. EVEN IF I ONLY HAVE ONE FUNCTIONING ARM TO HOLD HIM... I'M GOING TO HOLD ON TIGHT AND NEVER LET HIM GO...

TAKE CARE. IF YOU EVER WANT TO WRITE, THATS FINE...

SHERRY

You sound like you'll do just fine. I have NO IDEA(!) how we would have handled it at 5 years, you guys sound strong! Just remember when ya feel grumpy, treat yourself as you'd treat others....in other words cut yourself some slake too, its just a mood..