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another lightening bolt


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I was at the doctor with my youngest when I got a call on my cell. We had just been shown to an exam room, and I didn't really pay attention to who was calling and after I answered the phone the voice sounded like my friend when she is messing with me disguising her voice. But after I said WHAT DO YOU WANT, she didn't stop like she usually does. So I looked at the caller ID and realized that it was the wife of a co-worker. I really couldn't understand her, her voice sounded very distorted and I thought oh my gosh, is she drunk? She was crying and drawing her words out a lot. I said what's the matter, thinking it was more drama with her husband who has been having an affair and not being very nice to her since she caught him. Then she said she was in the hospital and my light flickered on. She said what I already knew by now, she had had a stroke. I don't know yet what caused it but I can only guess it was from her blood pressure. She has been under a terrific amount of stress for the last month or so and her husband, my co-worker, is just a jerk and is mad at her because he got caught.

 

I really feel bad that I was so abrupt when I answered the phone, I really did think it was a friend of mine. I told her I would try to come see her. I just hope I can handle it. I told my husband that because I am so emotional I didn't know how I was going to react when I see her. If she is as bad as she sounds I'm not sure I can handle it.

 

I told her the only thing I knew to tell her, I said it seems really bad in the beginning but it will get better. I asked if I had ever told her that I had a stroke and she said no. So I told her that a year ago I had stroked and that it took a while but eventually I started feeling better.

 

I don't remember sounding quite as bad as she does but I do remember sounding drunk. Maybe it was worse to those listening to me. I had a very hard time understanding her and I will probably muster the courage to go see her tomorrow since the hospital is right near my office. I just don't want to give her any false hope. I know that I've been extremely lucky with my recovery and the fact that I don't have too many lingering effects. I also know that others have not had the same fortune that I've had.

 

Wow, I wish she wasn't going through this.

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Sorry to hear about your friend. Giving support is so important, as you know. It will probably just give her comfort to see someone who understands. Having a little time to prepare for the visit will hopefully help you. sending (((((HUGS)))) your way

Bonnie

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Do you have any kind of perscription for anxiety? I now have EL bad, so I keep Xanax on hand for that kinda of emotionallly wroughting kind of thing. I'm not pushin pills honestly- I just think there are some situations that are harder for us to go thru. Sounds crazy, and I haven't used one in MONTHS but I have the sons graduation coming up tomorrow night and in order to not be a sniveling mess I think they help when used VERY sparingly and for special situations like this.

 

CAN YOU THINK OF WHO BETTER THAN A FELLOW STROKER WHO'S REALLY BEEN THERE TO TALK TO HER? WE KNOW THE DRILL, THE LENGTH OF TIME IT TAKES TO FEEL AND DO BETTER. WHAT I WOULD HAVE GIVEN TO HAVE SOMEONE TALK TO ME WHO'S BEEN TO THE FRONT LINES...

 

TELL HER ITS NOT LIKE A COLD, YOU DON'T JUST GET OVER IT IN A SHORT LENGTH OF TIME-EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT- AND THE FIRST YEAR IS THE LONGEST AND THE WORST, BUT THAT SHE'LL MAKE THE MOST STRIDES. BUT BY THE SECOND YEAR SHE'LL BEGIN TO FEEL BETTER...

 

MY EYES ARE WELLING UP AND LIP QUIVERING AT JUST THE THOUGHT OF THAT DARK TIME...TELL HER ALOT OF US ARE PULLING FOR HER AND WHEN SHE FEELS BETTER, SIT DOWN WITH HER AND SHOW HER WHAT WE'RE ALL ABOUT WHEN SHE IS READY...SHE WON'T FEEL ALONE THEN... :blush: GOOD LUCK AND MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH HER AND REMIND HER SHE IS A SURVIVOR.... :cheer:

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Mom,

Wow, Jan up above pretty much covered it. You know that speech can be affected but that the person is still lurking inside there. But you have been where she is now, be there for her and let her know what you know.... things get better slowly over time with alot of hard work and effort. Give her the address to this site if she is online. That way all the pressure isn't on you to give her one on one stroke support.

Good luck and you can handle this,

Pam

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