Babs,

I think with any medical event, we all learn as we go. You hear the same thing over and over in conjunction with any illness/stroke/cancer ect...."we didn't know" Once it happens to us, we become "experts" from experience. I'm not sure if it is guilt I am sensing in your entry, but you didn't know and the Dr.s all missed it.

Barbara, there is enough guilt to be found in the stroke experience.... stop trying to look for more, you aren't the only person who has not known, stop beating yourself up over this. If you flog yourself to death, who will care for Eddie? It will take awhile, but you'll accept it happenmed and be able to move on.

Pam