When she logically considers all the caveats of her so-called freedom ride, she'll decide your right, its not safe or sensible for her to do. I know, from experience how awful it is not to be able to take off on your own, but if she just thinks of that HILL and the bathroom problems, she'll back out

June

Butch,

Tell Lisa 'happy birthday' for me. Don't feel bad that you didn't have anything to do with the planning. The important thing is she'll be surrounded by people who love you both and the who did what doesn't really matter.

I like your wheelchair ban for when you're around to keep an eye on Lisa. There is a real danger that a survivor as far out as Lisa develops an emotional dependance on the chair. And stick to your guns on the motorized wheelchair. Your logic is sound plus she sounds like she's doing well in the walking around the house with more stability. Using a manual chair helps keep her core body muscles strong.

Thanks for the update!

Jean

HI Butch, Happy Birthday to Lisa.

Have you mentioned the dangers of the hill and no ramps or assitance. Some survivors don't actually realize the "dangers" until pointed out.

As for an "un expected" b day present.. Tickets to a movie and dinner out ... if affordable a small piece of jewlery. Maybe a little gold heart on a chain. A CD of some of her favorite music with a little personal CD player...... NO to toasters, appliances..lol

Butch,

From a survivor point of view, Lisa doesn't really need a motorized wheelchair. If she can walk around the house, then she needs to keep upping her goals, to move on to something more challenging. The worst thing anyone can do for a survivor out of love is enable them to become too dependent. I'm from the school of independent thinking and action.

Tell her happy birthday from me.

Pam

First of all A big :happybday: to Lisa.

Now down to business. Completely agree with Pam. It does no good to become dependent on a wheel chair when you are on the verge of walking. Personally,, I'm in favor of a rollator. It can be used in the house as well as ou, has a seat for rests and is in a walking position and will strength the legs. I started using one and then started to push it a little ahead and then walk up to it. Now, I occasionally "take it for a walk" but mostly have it "parked". I am planning on keeping it near the bed when I move because I won't have much furniture to start and when I get up for bathroom breaks, I'm still half asleep and use furniture etc. for balance. The rollator will come in handy and be good since I will be all alone.

I'm sure if she had a choice, she would see that gaining independence is more important than depending on a motorized chair.