It takes a very long time to trust a friendship enough to confide in someone. I personally think it's normal to have 1 or 2 very close friends who you can do that with in one's entire life time. Being able to have fun with your new friends is great and really is what counts in the real world. Go with the flow.

Jean

I agree, I have had some good friends over the years but a lot of them have been circumstantial, they have been work colleagues, belonged to the same club or church or neighbourhood. Then we move on and the friendship fades.

I have a couple of friends who are always there in the background. Sometimes I can confide in them, sometimes I can't as neither have an invalid husband so now our basic lives are very different. My confidences are shared here, with the family and occassionally with a couple of widowed friends.

I don't think any of us are social misfits, it is just that we can't adapt as quickly as we used to and that makes our changed status more obvious. So have fun with your new friends and maybe one day you will re-establish contact with some of the old ones as their circumstances change.

Sue.