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:friends: ----wish I could offer more than a virtual hug but I can't think straight at the moment.

You are a strong woman and I have faith in your ability to dig your way out of that hole you're in right now.

Jean

Mel, it takes two to make a couple. Having one half "down for a while" happens. If the tables were turned, what would you have done? Hopefully, not the same thing because you know the pain this has caused.

So many others - yes- those who have never had a stroke find themselves in the same position; therefore you can not blame it on your stroke. Most likely it would have happened anyway.

There is no reason to blame what has happened to you for this sad (as you see it) happening. None of us have asked for a stroke yet for some reason, we were chosen. Why? Who knows?

I also know, like Jean, that you can come out of the depths and will find a life that will be more than you ever hoped for. No, you will not ever be physically the person you were, but what has made you a special person - the "stuff" inside - will always be a part of you. And most important, such a person will go on to a different and better life. Bad things do happen to good people but it is that goodness which will see you through your pain.

Okay ((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))) All marriages have blow ups or ups and downs. Sometimes we engage our mouths before we engage our brains. ( this happens to everyone .. not just stroke survivors.)

You have been through a lot.. a car accident, illness, surgery, teenager, the death of a family member. Not easy under any circumstances.

Don't beat yourself up to hard. Understand that everyone has ups and downs, as Phyllis says bad things happen to good people. Hoping for things to better for you soon.