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c'est la vie



Since Rob has been home (about a week) from the hospital I noticed it must be hard for him to close doors behind him, because so often he doesn't. I would find the front door open, and that was a clue he had gone outside. I won't talk about other doors that were also left open :) I didn't think much about it, except that it must have been a difficult task, that he wasn't able to take on. Today I saw why he has been leaving the doors open. I watched him leave the house, he was managing the door trying to close it behind him, the door jam that was raising havoc with his foot, his cane..... all with one strong arm/leg. It made me realize the little things, like trying to close the door behind them, that are so hard for disabled people. That I take for granted.


I had gotten used to him being independant, and helping around the house - back to doing the dishes, cooking, the laundry. All those activities are back on me now. Not a huge big deal, just that I am aware of it, and I certainly know it could be harder than it is. I have a new job at work, and less hours which is helpful, however a lot less money but we'll get used to that. -such is life


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love your attitude and kindness to be able to recognize these small things and not make big deal about it, we had same issues at our home, I do close the door, but I forget to lock it though it's same deal with me trying to close the door with one hand while holding mail in my mouthso locking becomes least of my problem at that time, though I try to come back to it to lock it, it is hassle. did I tell u I hate being disabled, but I also want to enjoy life at the same token.






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Asha, isn't it wonderful that your mouth comes in handy to hold things when you only have one strong hand :) I see Rob all the time use his teeth as tools (am sure the dentist hates that). Karen

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Even more difficult than closing a door is opening it. First you have to be able to put the key in the lock- perhaps with your good hand which may not be the hand that you used all your life. Then there are things like door steps and of course the things you can't hold with your teeth- grocery bags etc. An added care, the dog greeting you who is anxious to go out.


Yes, people with disabilities must find the best way for them to do what was always never before thought about. Does make life interesting but does give one pride when the way is found to accomplishment.


I, too, love your attitude.



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I totally forgot about the dog! You're right. Thank goodness we tried to teach this one not to run through the door without permission, and I can easily back her up with one word. The previous two dogs we had both would attempt dominance by running by fast, really close to us - can't imagine having a dog like that around now with Rob being so unstable.


We live in a community where one rarely locks their doors and we always leave our keys in the car (otherwise we would lose them) - So the door lock isn't a problem unless we leave overnight.... thank goodness.



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On occasion, I think back to when I first stroked and lost the usage of my left hand and arm. I have become extremely creative in the ways I make use of my teeth to get things opened. Entering and exiting through doors is also tricky at times. I know most of that is based on fear of falling as I fell once going out the door. Didn't get hurt fortunately except for a bruised bottom.


Hopefully with time, Rob's strength will return and there may be a return of the things he was doing around the house.


Your positive outlook is very motivating.

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