Lorri,

I too will pray for God's blessings for the "kids". Like you, I can see both sides and can understand why they want to have a child. On the other hand, how are they going to care for the baby? Is it expected Grandma (You) will take on that responsibility? Are you prepared to do so, if asked? Please don't let your prior issues of guilt make you feel you owe this to Joey and Chelsea. The past cannot be changed - no matter how much we would like it to be. You'll need to set boundaries and stand by them.

I do hope that they come to you for advice. If not, what you are doing...turning it over to God...is good. As it is said (and I try to use this outlook) Let go, Let God.

(((hugs)))

Lorrie:

I agree with Donna, having child is huge step, are they financially independent, you want to bring child to stable household and before even attempting for baby shouldn't they get married, such that child grows up in healthy environment and parents don't just come and go whenver they please. are they ready to give best to their child on their own and not depend on others including mom.

I think they both are still young and need to have a job making steady income, get married then think about kid. yes you did mistakes in past but if we learn from those mistakes then evrything becomes worthwhile experience.

Asha

Yikes. There is so much going on right now in their lives, and Joey still needing care.I know High Schools have those dolls, they have a recorder in them, they cry .. have to be fed and changed, held etc. the kids get them for 3 days.. they cannot let their heads "flop" back. Gives the experience of a newborn.. they have several levels of babies.. one is even from a drug addicted type mom and is quite fussy, colicky. The key to the baby is on the moms wrist and has to be inserted in the back and it also record how the baby is moved, etc.Maybe you could borrow/rent one. I don't think they understand the Huge responsibility and emotional aspect this would be at this time. They can commit without having a child.You made mistakes, I made mistakes. we are all human. Try to talk to them about commitment.. and a child doesn't have to be a part of it at this time. If it is true LOVE.. it will LAST and a baby isn;t going to change anything.Will keep you all in my prayers and God's hands