Bart,

There is nothing wrong with needing emotional support. Our lives and the lives of our loved ones changed in a split second.

I know, for me, I cannot begin to thank all who have been there for me to help lift me when I was sagging. By hanging in there and being the best I can be, I show them their support helped raise me up just like the song Wind Beneath my Wings by Bette Midler.

Try not to beat yourself up as much - chin up.

Bart:

after stroke our cofidence in ourselves becomes very shaky & we feel worthles. when I feel that way. I just remember I survived my stroke for a reason & my purpose on earth is not done yet. I matter in this big universe. one famous line of It's wonderful life comes to mind. you never know how many lives you have touched in positive way during your life time. trust me my spouse never tells me he needs me or he loves me. but I know his way of showing love is different. he shows his love through actions. you are needed by lot of people including your young children. just try to do your best & god wil take care of rest.

Asha

Bart you are an amazing person to admit what a lot of men might think is a weakness. I don't think you are weak at all. Your wife and children are very lucky to have you. Take care

mc

Hi Bart, I am glad I met you in Chat. You are a Nice man. Remember you are healing, look at how far you have come since joing here. You are learning your way around the site, posting, blogging coming to chat.. Just even using the computer. I could not look at the screen for very long it made me dizzy and sick to my stomach.

Yes sometimes we want coddling..lol .. we have been injured and it is comfort. Sometimes our spouse knows.. we need ... tough love, To not give in and do everything for us, If they do, how will we learn to do it. Yes it may take us many times to learn, or finding a "new" way to adapt to do things. This accomplishment in turn gives us pride in doing it, and self-confidence. So Kelly is showing you LOVE by NOT coddling you. It would probaly be easier many times for her to DO it, but she knows for Your own GOOD, she knows she has to let you learn, and struggle. IT is a greater LOVE...

Just trying.. and seeing how far you have come, be proud.. you are not giving in or giving up,, you are trying.. and thats all you can do.. Things will get better.. recovery is measured in centimeters sometimes, but progress is on going.. and it is Progress.

The emotional up heavals are Normal.. we r up one minute and down the next, it is a roller coaster for awhile, there is so much adjusting, re-learning. It takes a bit.. when the rug is yanked out from under your feet. Just do the best you can, and know you have people who understand

best wishes Bart, Bonnie