I soooo agree. We can do so much but unless our survivor participates in the therapy etc there is nothing more we can do. Like you I want Ray at home with me not in a nursing home but he knows that unless he can walk that is not negotiable.

When he is in respite (his holiday) I sit in the sun, read a paper, go for a walk, or spend a few days at my Daughter's place (my holiday).

No guilt MaryJo, you worked hard on his recovery, now take it easier until he is back home with you or settled in his future care home.

(((Hugs))) from Sue.

MaryJo:

I agree with you, though your love for him will make him work hard towards his recovery. I know I did.

hugs,

Asha

Mary Jo, that's good news and I applaud the new facility personnel for trying and getting him to exercise. I always say, it's the people at the facility that are trained enough to care for patients no matter their conditions.

Every patient will not be talkative like me but the personnel has to understand this and still do what they have to do in getting the person to cooperate with them daily. I know it was some on certain shifts at the hospital rehab I didn't get along with from day one!

I suppose there will always be dislikes in certain patients with the providers caring for them that day! We'll pray it all works out for Dan and he gets stronger everyday.

I hope things get better. As for not eating you might want to check the side effects of all his medications. I was on one medication that had a side effect in a small portion of the population has an appetite suppressant. Once they got me off that medication and on to something different my appetite came back. Don't feel guilty about taking care of yourself you're no good to him if you get sick. You need to take time out for yourself every week or the stress will get to you. Take care

Sheryl

Hi Mary Jo. I'm happy to hear you have Dan in rehab where he can recover and get stronger. You need to take care of yourself and getting a massage, relaxing anyway you can will help you. I wish I had done this more when Larry was an inpatient. When he came home, I was overwhelmed with all I had to do. I hope you have some help when he does come home.

Take care,

Julie

Mary Jo,

I am happy to hear that Dan is in a nice place. I hope that get the rest and recuperation that you so need. that is a wonderful quote.

You have done alot. Everybody hates rehab. That is the nature of the beast.

Ruth

MaryJo: you get a few weeks off, in trade for the rest of your life. Dan would certainly agree with that. But I am so happy you found a Rehab that is working well and aggressively with him. Take your me time and he seems to be making great strides. Best, Debbie