nancyl

Stroke Caregiver - male
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About nancyl

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  • Birthday 03/20/1967

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  • Stroke Anniversary (first stroke)
    03-12-2011
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    nancy
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    nd

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  1. nancyl

    Thanks for the check in !
  2. nancyl

    Friends

    Ive known a gal and her family for 25 plus years -- not super close, but that connection you get with people you meet sometimes. Kinda like a mirror- they seem just like you and they are - you are genuinely happy for them and vice versa. Words can not communicate the bond. there simply was not a need for the daily communication. after Dan stroked I watched there family from afar - they were the mirror of what our family used to be and would have been minus no stroke. similar- ages , beliefs, values, childrearing , and work ethic. Well her husband had a massive stroke similar to Dans -- left br
  3. God is absolutely watching over us - gently guiding those that want it. Dan used to have seizures all the time... they are rare now, interestingly seizure drugs can cause seizures - which is why he had a couple years of a lot of seizures . kicked off the meds and now not so much... Glad your in that good place of appreciation. NancyL
  4. nancyl

    survived surgery

    I survived the surgery - I had a bit more trouble than anticipated with the anesthesia- have had nausea even 2 weeks out. And some pain and aches as well . But it is what it is... and Dan has been nothing less then great. Family has helped as much as Ive asked and needed. I have caught up on a lot of TV all if it crap - but lol - it caters to a population. to each their own as the saying goes.... I went back to work last week on Monday ( 1 week after surgery ) just half days . By noon I was tired. I'll play this coming week by ear. My job is not physical more analytical. And my little crimina
  5. nancyl

    I survived the surgery - I had a bit more trouble than anticipated with the anesthesia- have had nausea even 2 weeks out. And some pain and aches as well . But it is what it is... and Dan has been nothing less then great. Family has helped as much as Ive asked and needed. I have caught up on a lot of TV all if it crap - but lol - it caters to a population. to each their own as the saying goes.... I went back to work last week on Monday ( 1 week after surgery ) just half days . By noon I was tired. I'll play this coming week by ear. My job is not physical more analytical. And my little crimina
  6. nancyl

    at present my color would be a clear blue sky color... I'm content at the moment, and thankful because as you know my world has been black in the past. but like storms that move through the sky, eventually I have come into some clearness of a blue sky. I'm holding tight onto that vision. Thank you for reminding me and others to reflect, because only with reflection can we stop and see.
  7. nancyl

    Time Marches On

    I haven't posted in awhile --- March 11th will be our decade anniversary of my husbands stroke that changed our lives.... We finished up our home remodel ( Dan came back home from the nursing home due to covid) the remodel made the home more accessible for him - and better for me to help him. But -- a couple weeks ago I was helping Dan with his bath , went to swing his leg and pop something inside me popped. We thought I had prolapsed my uterus - but turned out to be my bladder. So surgery to put that back in place is next week. Good lord- Im falling apart, literally -- LOL nothing to do
  8. nancyl

    I went and got my medical card for ND. Still experimenting - with dosage. I just take a tincture - helps me sleep, I actually have more dreams - which is nice. Dan won't try it. He had the stroke and it might help with his spasticity - but he won't even try -- lol , his choice.
  9. nancyl

    Absolutely agree. Stroke net brought knowledge and the feeling of not alone. Some one had don't this before, so it can be done. I met lifetime friends on the stroke net, all thanks to Steve M and the wonderful contributors and mentors on stroke net.
  10. nancyl

    Prayers -- and please be kind to yourself. Life is hard for everyone and we all make mistakes , the trick is recognizing them , learning from them and moving on. Seems to me like that is exactly what your doing . There are better days ahead along with the bumpy days. You are a ray of sunshine to many people ( I appreciate your kind notes to me on my blogs) --- So be kind to yourself.
  11. Ive been to that point - our minds are amazing . The only reason I didn't do it. Was the complexness I believed it would have been to get my body from AZ to ND. But man, I knew I wasn't right. But it was like a dark storm that just moves in and you are lost... It took me years to get the right treatment. ECT for me. Meds sure didn't work - usually made it worse , but you gotta jump all the hoops before ECT is ever considered. And not every medical pro is in favor of it, so they just don't tell you about it - or tell you they don't know about it - but don't provide any direction. And when your
  12. Wow -- once it got nice out here in ND then time sped up. Ive been outside puttering. stained our deck , lots of gardening... help get my brothers home together for a estate sale.. back to more or less FT work at the office. And Dan has played "nice". So I guess I'll keep him home vs. the nursing home. With Covid there is no way we could have managed anyways. So he is here( home) and Ive got a massive remodel planned to make it nice for both of us... It was on my to do list anyhow. My Middle daughter the one from MT ( Erika) is pregnant with her first due in October. So we have
  13. nancyl

    Oh Sarah-- I think of you often... What a beautiful gathering -- small - full of meaning-- very special... I'd write some "words" but I just don't have any... Thinking of you.. NancyL
  14. nancyl

    BORED

    Of course we all are bored. I don't have to much to do, outside of working my now half days and take care of Dan. We have our little routine, Dan THRIVES on routine - Me not so much. But I really can't complain , Ive had to redirect him a few times as to my expectations of his expectations. He like to move the bar. The compulsiveness. But its been so many years I do recognize it for what it is. And for as much as I complained about his desire to frequent the casino - it sure beats sitting at home and staring at each other... lol. Eventually here in ND we will get nice enough outside that
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    Sarah-- Im so glad a neighbor extended that wonderful gesture, albeit toilet paper ( who woulda thought in the past what a magnanimous gesture a gift of TP would be--lol). Renews our belief in mankind. I hope you are well, you have endured so much, I only hope that you have some "peace " . I think of you much more often than you'd guess-- that long caregiving road. Bless you girl.. !