kristina38 Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 Hi all, it will be one year on June 29th that Mom came home from acute/rehab hospital. I've been caring for her solely for that entire time with no breaks to speak of. It seems like every time I think we are making progress and I am gaining some of my life back we take three steps backwards. I had started back to work a few weeks ago but now it looks like I may have to give it up because I'm not available for the hours they need me to work. It wouldn't be so bad but our financial situation is nearing crisis, Mom only has 5,000 dollars in savings left and I simply cannot afford to be unemployed any longer. We were also planning a trip back home to St. Louis the end of July but because of the ridiculous cost of home care for Mom (300 dollars a day for 24 hour care which she needs) it appears that I will have to stay behind to care for Mom. To be honest, I really, really needed this break and I'm just crushed that I can't go. I haven't seen any of my friends or my fiance's family in 1 1/2 years now and I'm really beginning to become mean, angry and resentful most of the time. My Uncle's behavior is getting worse and he takes every opportunity to talk bad about my fiance to my Mother. Some days I'm truly fearful I'll lose control and hurt him badly or worse. He told me the other day I wouldn't have so many problems if I hadn't gotten the bottom of the barrel when I picked my fiance. Considering my fiance moved 800 miles away from his family and friends to work two jobs in a redneck shithole town to help me pay MY bills I don't see it that way. He constantly harangues me about my ex boyfriend who was very wealthy and tells me I should have stayed with him (I left him almost five years ago). I explained to him that had I still been with my ex he would have never allowed me to move to Florida to care for Mom and HIS ass would have been out in the street by now, he doesn't seem to get that though...I hate the idea of throwing an old man out in the street (he's 75) but he causes me nothing but undue stress when I'm already stressed to the max. He's always been a very spiteful, mean spirited person and he still is. The rest of our family will have nothing to do with him including his own son so it appears I'm stuck with him. I really wish I had an answer but I don't and some days I wish I just wouldn't wake up... Kristina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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