Janice, Janice, Janice.... that so-called holiday spirit is a marketing gimmick so you are smart not to succumb. What you contribute to your marriage is you -- your existence and your presence in your husband's life. It's not what you do but who you are. Get out of the pit and stand up there on top where you belong. We have very little $ since we are both out of work. For Xmas we are buying ourselves a joint gift - a new 2-line phone for our kitchen. (The old one conked out.) Not very romantic, but a necessity and it is what we both would like.
Jean