I thank all of you so much for your advise and sharring stories of good news in your recovery. A quick description of what life has been like for the last 2 years. One week before my husband had his stroke, he got the promotion he was waiting for for 2 years and a very nice raise. Then BAM. Now he will never do that work again. His company would hire him back in a heart beat if he could return there. I know he has alot to be angry over and I know it's the people closest to him he takes his anger out on. In our case it's me and our youngest daughter because we are the two that inforce tough love. He was a Marine Gunny Sgt in the Corps for 12 years and if any of you know one it's true once a Marine always a Marine and being a Marines wife is the hardest job there is. I have been hit, kicked, and pinched, had things thrown at me and called every name in the book. I have Diverticulitus and IBS and so when stress hits me I run right to the bathroom. I came down with this horrid sore rash on my side and went to the Dr. He told me I have maximized my stress level and had to have treatment for the Shingles!! This has been a tough time for all of us. My kids want there Dad back and he will never be back. Not what he was anyway. If meds can help keep his anger down than that's what has to be. I'd hate to see what it would be like without any. I think I'd want to choke him. He never in his life had a challenge he could not over come. He never gave up untill he could get it done. He was our handyman. He fixed the plumbing, wirring, carpentry, cars, everything. Now he can't even stand alone or use his right hand. He is right handded. I had a phyc. nurse come here one time and he told her NOT to let the door hit her in the ass on the way out!! The Marine in him I guess, LOL. But it was a bad scene here that day. I am taking him to see a Nuero Dr. in a few weeks and hopefully he can come up with something. He really feels that by sitting in his reclinner he will get better even though all the Dr's have told him different. They have all told him that repetition is what rewires the brain and he just refusses to believe that. SO...........I am at my wits end here as to how to help him any more. We tell him every day he needs to do more if he wants to get better. It's like he just don't care any more. He really feels a miricle will happen and one day he will stand and walk again. It's not going to happen like that! Being his caregiver, I had to quit my job to stay here with him. Be the one to fight for everything he has. I am the one who had to go from 2 good paychecks to living on almost nothing and so far I have survived. ................SO I guess all I can say right now is thank you to all of you. You are all so carring and helpfull. I know I would have been a basket case if it weren't for finding this place so long ago. It has helped me accept his stroke and most important makes me know that I am not alone in this battle...............Thank you all for carring and all of your suggestions...........HUGS to everyone of you.....
