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About Seagull173

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  • Birthday 01/06/1951

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    Chess, soccer(futbol), sailing, fishing, high school football, Ohio State Football, Youngstown State Football, and reading.

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  1. Happy Anniversary Seagull173!

  2. Happy Anniversary Seagull173!

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  4. I would save the child. Since there is only two options available, your choice (suicide) for Mr. Bush is not an option.
  5. If Mr. Bush were to enter a burning room and in one corner was a three old child and in another corner was a dish with five embryonic stem cells and Bush had time to only save the child or the dish with the five embryonic stem cells, which would he save?
  6. Thanks Marilyn: To clarify again, I am not the Vet, my father was a WWII Vet. Being in the armed forces is not a job that I envy. All that have served have given more than they should have. My father was a fortunate Vet, he came home in one piece. My true dream is that they would be all non-combat Vets. We as patriotic citizens should strive to make our service people safe from harm and used when only neccessary. Tom
  7. I am by no means an expert about veteran's benefits, however in this country laws are made by the people for the people and some veteran benefits do not distinguish veterans between those who have seen combat and those who have not. Many WWII Vets had no choice in where they served but their war was a necessary war. So the bleeding the system comment is not an appropriate comment when it comes to receiving benefits in this country. Maybe if we were all a little more responible in not creating wars these benefits would not be an issue. Tom
  8. Fred: It's so sad that you have to fight for benefits that you have a right to have. I am not a veteran but my father was. The government thinks nothing of putting people at risk to fight their wars and then fail to take care of them or jerk them around to get benefits the government promised them. My plan is to go to the VA and then to my congressman's office, after that I will seek legal help. Of course I am on the front end of a battle that I am assuming will happen. I am anticipating a great investment in time to possibly get no where but I am going to try to fight. I just can't believe that this benefit hasn't been publicized in magazines like the AARP magazine. Why is this benefit hidden? The WWII Vets are in need and they are being forgotten about. Tom
  9. If you have a loved one who has been a spouse of a veteran that served during wartime and that loved one needs financial assistance because they no longer can care for themself, then you need to look into the Veteran's Aid and Attendance Pension. I became aware of this benefit EIGHT years too late. That amounts to $90,000 of benefits that my stroke survivor mother was entitled to have. However it seems to be a little known benefit that anyone knows about. I just transferred my mother from assisted living to nursing this month and this is when I found out about this benefit. The large non-profit organization that manages the four locations of assisted living and nursing facilities in our area just learned about this benefit within the last year. Good luck on finding out about this benefit by searching the VA website because it hasn't jumped out at me as of yet. Visit VeteranAid.org for more information. Why is it that I have the feeling that the government has just spit on my father's grave. Money for Iraq but no money for Vets. Does anyone have any insight on recovering "lost" benefits from the VA? Tom
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    Jean: That is a great post. I read each step and reflected on my mental well being post stroke. I am now 3 years post stroke (my time goes by fast in this second life) and I still find myself going through these three stages but not nearly as intense as the first time through. What has been good about having them in writing is to know that there is a structure to grief and realize that you are not alone in going through these feelings. Important reading for all. Tom
  11. We talked about ownership of stroke and how caregiver and survivor can improve on understanding each other. Well with that thought in mind the third right listed is a priority. The survivor needs to understand that right to maintain a healthy relationship. Thanks Jean for posting. Tom
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    Tania: If it has been a few months since your stroke, you most likely are still "rewiring" and fatigue will be around. Fatigue is one of those mysteries that happens with a stroke. Some people get over the hump while others seem to have it around for a long time. Others get the spurts of energy that hopefully expand. Hang in there, you are still in the early stages of recovery. Tom
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    Steven: Just curious to what the origins of this picture is? Could it be a 1000 ft ore boat on a great lake? Although I've never been real close to a 1000 footer, the water sure looks familiar. Tom
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    As stroke suvivors, are we guilty of trying to fit 25 plus hours in a 24 hour day? Is this late stage type of fatigue stroke related or age related? Last night when I read this thread of posts I wanted to respond but I knew that to organize my thoughts and create a post would have been useless because I was wasted. Too much of a day. I agree with Harlan that we keep setting the bar higher. Recording your activities in a diary and reviewing that diary could reveal some surprises. Mental activities are very taxing. I play chess. Before my stroke I went to some day long tournaments which consisted of four games with a 2 and a half hour time limit for each game. I've played basketball or other sports when I was younger but I never felt the exhaustion I experienced from participating in a day long chess tournament. I think I am playing a stonger game now post stroke but I have serious reservations about attempting a day long tournament. As stroke survivors or even as we get older generally speaking we tend to get more sedentary. Activity helps stimulate the mind. Finding the balance is hard. As survivors we want to take more into our minds now. Let's face it, we are trying and doing things that we did before our strokes and still find time to come to this board. We operate on system overload. Steve, you have done a lot for this site and if I would have done what you have done I would be napping until the next decade. Fatigue could be a result of many factors, but taking an inventory of your time is the first step in solving this dilemma. My bet is you will be surprised in finding out how much you have been doing. Tom