Daf: STOP explaining yourself to people who don't care to know. Your son and wife are there, they know,support and love you. With hard work on your part and their help, you will get through this.

Don't share your good and bad days. I stopped doing that over a year ago with Bruce's people. Just my sister and his out of state roommates, who call often, because they do care and they do want to help, even if just for me, because they are out of state. But they would be on the next plane out if I asked!

Find your support group. Vent with them. OK to take your wife out of the mix at times, she is under enough stress, but know in your heart she is there if you need her.

Refocus on you and your family. Patience come with time. I am lucky in that Bruce has the patience of a saint, which offsets me.

When people call, stock answer: its a slow go, but we are moving ahead. And end it there. Best, Debbie

Wow, I'm a caregiver and was just venting in my own blog post about how my husband doesn't have motivation and initiative. Then I read your post. You have helped me so much to understand what my husband must be going through. Don't get discouraged! It's very hard for people that aren't going through this to understand how difficult it must be. Everyone is usually wrapped up in their own problems. I agree with Ethyl17 - refocus on yourself and your family. I wish you all the luck and thanks for setting me straight.

Daf:

what I learnt from my stroke journey is that nobody else cares about how you are doing except your wife & son, so don't worry about what others think & say since no one else does so why waste your energy & happiness about thinking what others think. few things helped me deal with new reality sooner than later.

1. blogging & chatting with other survivors helped me deal with new me.

2. writing 5 things I am greatful for in my gratitude journal

3. focusing on what I can still do

4. reading lot of spiritual books also helped.

things will get better Daf give a time, things has to improve & change for good. I believe you survived for a reason & not as a punishment. so enjoy this second chance to fullest.

Asha

Daf:

 

what I learnt from my stroke journey is that nobody else cares about how you are doing except your wife & son, so don't worry about what others think & say since no one else does so why waste your energy & happiness about thinking what others think. few things helped me deal with new reality sooner than later.

 

1. blogging & chatting with other survivors helped me deal with new me.

2. writing 5 things I am greatful for in my gratitude journal

3. focusing on what I can still do

4. reading lot of spiritual books also helped.

 

things will get better Daf give a time, things has to improve & change for good. I believe you survived for a reason & not as a punishment. so enjoy this second chance to fullest.

 

Asha

Daf: STOP explaining yourself to people who don't care to know. Your son and wife are there, they know,support and love you. With hard work on your part and their help, you will get through this.

 

Don't share your good and bad days. I stopped doing that over a year ago with Bruce's people. Just my sister and his out of state roommates, who call often, because they do care and they do want to help, even if just for me, because they are out of state. But they would be on the next plane out if I asked!

 

Find your support group. Vent with them. OK to take your wife out of the mix at times, she is under enough stress, but know in your heart she is there if you need her.

 

Refocus on you and your family. Patience come with time. I am lucky in that Bruce has the patience of a saint, which offsets me.

 

When people call, stock answer: its a slow go, but we are moving ahead. And end it there. Best, Debbie

Wow, I'm a caregiver and was just venting in my own blog post about how my husband doesn't have motivation and initiative. Then I read your post. You have helped me so much to understand what my husband must be going through. Don't get discouraged! It's very hard for people that aren't going through this to understand how difficult it must be. Everyone is usually wrapped up in their own problems. I agree with Ethyl17 - refocus on yourself and your family. I wish you all the luck and thanks for setting me straight.

HI I DON T EXPLAIN MYSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE ANYMORE. YES ITS VERY FRUSTRATING AND DEEP DOWN INSIDE, I GET MAD. I JUST SAY UH HAH, OR NOD MY HEAD OR I DON T SAY ANYTHING PATTY