I am sorry for your  and your son's disappointment.  my own feeling asha is that the particular school you go to doesn't make much difference, its your attitude to learn when you get to school that is so important and if your son has this attitude, nothing will stop him.

your stroke has given your son a inner strength that he would not have otherwise had.  he will do just fine asha!

kind regards

david

Asha: I am sorry he did not get his first choice, but he is a bright, versatile kid and he will run with whatever ball is handed off to him. Just his acceptance, hard work and help with your stroke recovery tells me that. Prayers and hugs. Debbie

Hi Asha

Sorry that your son has had this disappointment but when one door closes another opens.

He will do great at any school that he goes to and just maybe he will find the girl of his dreams there too

Sally

A child's mind is set in stone when it's something that want but in time they will accept the second choice and down the road they are glad it worked out like it did so sometimes it's for the better the first choice didn't work out!!

I think he will get past his first choice didn't work out and later on accept the other choice he had to make about schools!!

The difference is when they plan on playing a sport for that school and have to make another choice of schools!!! Just my experience about like marriages!!!!

I am sorry he didn't get into his first choice! I have a 10th grader in high school this year, so I can imagine how he feels. Where ever he gets accepted, I am sure he will fall in love with it and do just fine!

I know what you mean about feeling our child's hurts more than our own. I still struggle with it.

Life is one huge audition and you gotta get good at hearing the No's so you can hear the Yes. Our kids have to learn this to cope and get resilient. But from my mom's eyeview it is agonizing especially since nothing I said or did eased that pain or that feeling they had failed and were not worthy and all that self doubt that seeps in. I just had to keep telling them I loved them and was proud so they didn't feel they had disappointed me which is a huge thing when they faced a disappointment or a break up. 

For me it has been a learning curve to deal with this because sometimes I try and say something right but I never do or I am told to just give them space which is hard for me to hear when I want to help.

It is never easy being a parent.

Oh I think that Ivy League opens doors but so do lots of other universities with good programs for what your son wants to study. I think there is value in being a little fish in a big pond but also it may be nice to be a big fish in a little pond and shine.

Thank you every one for your kind comments. It means lot to me. Kido is feeling much better now, he did his moping for a day & now over his sadness which makes me feel better too. Pam  thank you so much for your detailed message its so comforting. I feel all of your  virtual hugs  in our difficult time.

love you all

Asha

Hi Asha, just read your blog.   My dear everything happen for a reason, my Son went to his  first choice and was so  unhappy. Changed  schools, now  he is  enjoying life, and does not even think about the other  school.  Your son is  a bright young man who will do great any  school he goes, remember he has you as his Mom.

Enjoy the holidays

Love and hugs

Yvonne