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I guess we need to start at the beginning



All good tales start at the beginning, who wants to walk into the middle. They tell me that this is good therapy, I need to face my demons, we'll see.


The date was 14 Oct 2014, a day like any other. Sunny and warm (this is Florida after all) and I had an appointment with the dentist. That went as expected and he gave me a script for amoxicillian, I've taken that many times and it always worked well. So, I returned home from the drug store and went into my home office to do some work. Cleared out a bunch of emails and then remembered the antibiotic. I took one and went back to work.


It took about 5 minutes and I was feeling flushed, then the itching all over at about 10 minutes. Now hives a few minutes later. Started thinking I must be having a minor reaction so took a couple Benedryl. (sp) About 5 minutes later I realize it is getting difficult to breath. My wife was home so I calmly walked to her den asked her to call 911 and tell them I was going into anaphylactic shock. It went downhill very quickly after that. I started fighting for air, it is terrifying when you can't breathe. Where are the paramedics? I decide I'm probably going to die laying on the bed, but not without a fight.


The paramedics arrived and declared I was having a heart attack, they put the monitors on, I remember one saying my pulse was 200 but they couldn't get a blood pressure. They won't listen and tell my wife to calm down, I'm not in anaphlactic shock. At this point I black out,i can't breathe at all. My wife tells me they got me to the ambulance and realized my airway was shutdown, The breathing failure had caused my heart to run away trying to compensate and had caused my heart to go into Afib. Start injecting Benedryl...Gee I was in full blown anaphylactic shock, who knew. Unfortunately my heart stays in Afib as my my airway comes back. But Afib is throwing clots now.Arrive at the ER and off to the cath lab. They remove 1 clot and schedule me for a triple bypass the next day. Little did we realize that both my wifes and my life were about to go sideways.


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How frustrating that they wouldn't listen to your wife.   I think there are a lot of us that are left wondering, if things had went differently (medically speaking), would we be sooooo much better off today.    At any rate, we now find ourselves living a whole different life than what we ever dreamed.   That's the bad news.    The good news, we are still here!    It was my husband that had a stroke, a severe one, that robbed him of just about everything.   And yet, 3 years later, here we still are, and we laugh, and watch tv together, and live our lives together.   We have a 'new normal'.  


Bob also displayed a-fib in the emergency room, but they couldn't tell whether he really had it as a regular thing, or whether he was in it BECAUSE of the stroke.   He did wear a heart monitor for 30 days, and they did not see a re-occurence.  


So many strokes, all with a different unbelievable story.    Most can't really point to anything that caused it, it was just a fluke.   My husband had worked out before going into work that morning.  He had just been in France, as a global executive, the week before.    His job took him all over the world, and on the weekends while he was in another country, he'd hike, do zip lines, and climb things.   I'd never believed it could happen to HIM.   But it did.   I learned that strokes are like car wrecks.   Sure, if you drunk drive your chances of being in a car wreck go way up.   But that doesn't mean that you won't be in a car wreck if you don't drink.   Strokes can hit anyone at anytime, even children.   


Glad to see your blog, it's a good thing to journal.    Later, it will be hard to remember the order of how things happened and your improvements.   Which reminds me, you didn't mention what your stroke leftovers are?    Bob lost all right side, but can now walk short distances with a gait belt, as his balance is off.  He lost all sight from his nose toward the right side.    He has aphasia (speech problems) and some cognitive loss.    He can usually follow a one line command, but not always.  


Oddly, many people who were horrified at what happened to Bob, are dead now, but he is still alive, and we are happy.   My husband could have just dropped dead, but I still have him, and we are happy.

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Welcome to the Blog Community I am a former caregiver now a widow after looking after my husband for 13 years full time.  He had many strokes, they simply couldn't stop them.  Also A-fib, fits, seizures and TIAs but as he survived till he was 70 from the first stroke aged 48 he had a long life really. And for the most part it was a good life.


As Sandy said journaling is good and allows you to see your progress and how life can change for the better.  Even after stroke.

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