Susan :

is there any friend who can give you ride to your son's home for thanksgiving party. Maybe you can go alone & bring home left over for your husband from party since he has to work on that day. at least you get to enjoy family get together.

Asha

How far away is your son's house? can you take a taxi, or get a care worker to drive you?  or even get you son to collect you the day before and stay overnight. I'm sure there is a way to do this you'll just have to get creative.  But I feel your pain. hang in there.

Thanks for your responses.  My son lives about 1½ hours from me; he can't come because he's on call and has to stay close to home.

I'm not feeling down about it today, which is nice! 

I appreciate your responses, thanks again. 

Do you see  your son often? And I agree with what someone else posted, there should be a way for you to make it to his place for Thanksgiving even if it means arriving the day before and spending the night at his place. I hope he knows how you feel. Sometimes the obvious isn't at all obvious. I hope you somehow have a nice Thanksgiving regardless. 

I agree with everyone.  How far is his house and I like turkey day, don't get me wrong but I look forward to see my family over Christmas  .( My Aunt bakes cookies)

One way you can look at it is to  be proud for he is on call to help others......    xxoooxx

11 hours ago, ksmith said:

 

 

One way you can look at it is to  be proud for he is on call to help others......

Agree! 

My 'gratitude chip' started working soon after I wrote the initial post.  As it turns out my ex and his family will be there, and even though I don't bare any ill feelings I look at not going as a plus.

6 hours ago, smarshall said:

 As it turns out my ex and his family will be there, and even though I don't bare any ill feelings I look at not going as a plus.

I TOTALLY understand that statement.  I like my ex's girlfriend, heck we even get along we, but since I can't remember the 9 years of marriage therefore before stroke I get upset for I don't understand why "we" couldn't be happy like that..... then I see how boring he is now and happy again 

Kelli and Susan I love the way you can both turn a negative into a positive!