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Give me an unbusy day


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I want an unbusy day. I seem to have less time as I get older. I know this is a common complaint. I heard it all the time from my church oldies. How did I ever fit work into the equation? There certainly is no time for that now. Of course doing the inside and outside work does mean I work on something seven days a week, alternating inside and out. My son says if I got rid of all the potplants that would make a difference but they are one of the things that keeps me sane.

 

Today I had my Ray free time as he went off to Daycare at 9.30am. It is good for him and good for me. Anyone who is a survivor and home all the time and thinks they are too young for Daycare think again. Does your caregiver need some time off? Does he/she need more time to work faster because she/he is not pushing you in a wheelchair? Well, give them a break and go off gracefully to some Senior Centre, or Daycare or wherever you can go and give your caregiver a break. It will give you time to socialise too. And if the thought is that all the other people there are in their eighties, well with a bit of luck the age gap will gradually close or seem less important. And with some good will on both sides in the end you won't even notice.

 

So did I relax and enjoy the warmth of a beautiful sunny day in April, that moment of shorter, more treasured days before the frost and fogs of winter seep in? Of course not. I crammed a heap of things in including a hair cut, a visit to my mum in her Dementia Lodge and some shopping. And just got home before the bus pulled into our yard at 2.30pm. I am supposed to be here with arms held in a welcoming gesture and a big smile on my face. Mind you that does not always happen. Sometimes I am a few minutes late, or they are a few minutes early and I arrive just after they do.

 

Tomorrow is free of encumbrances but I have some plans for it. I have to go to a hardware store to get some door sliding wheels (technical term unknown but I will know one when I see one) and some fertilizer for the garden and some potplant mix as I have some new old recycled pots. And it would be good to replant the herbs that I lost mid-summer to the heat. If I am able to get them this time of the year.

 

I also have to hand in the paperwork on my car but that means going two suburbs over so I will think about fitting the two jobs into the same day. Ray has been complaining a bit lately about how much we are out. He never used to, this is a new thing. He loves his time on the verandah just reading. I know he wishes I would just go off and do what has to be done by myself. It is a man thing, he thinks more than one shopping centre in a day is extravagant use of time.

 

There is so much I would like to do, but at the end of each week although I have been busy there doesn't seem to be room to squeeze in all I want to do. Did I hear you say "Simplify?" It would be simple if I only had to do for Ray and I but since the stroke all these medical appointments seem to keep me on the hop. And then there is medication to pursue, blessed social workers, OT's etc that just want to ring and discuss something or other. And I must admit the family have been a bit more demanding lately.

 

So what do I want for Mother's Day and my Birthday? Just give me an unbusy day.

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Sue

 

John not only wants to go to multiple stores/shopping malls when we go out, but when i am tired or want to go home he frequently says that there is just one more store that he wants to go to because he needs another pair of pants, or sneakers, or he wants to try a new shampoo or skin care product, or something else....

 

it all depends on the man. John is a true metrosexual, and metrosexuals shop more than women do.

 

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Sue,

 

I totally understand and sympathize with you. When I first came home from the hospital I had so much to do. I had to get all my finances in order, and the insurance thing worked out...well needless to say I couldn't wait till the weekend because I knew that I couldn't make business phone calls because everything was closed, so Friday after 5pm I loved...but Monday at 8am it all started again.

 

Well here I am almost a year later and I sometimes and only sometimes do I feel guilty if I don't do anything with my day. I take what I call a ME day where I feel guilt free and do nothing. All and all if the things that you are doing can wait till the next day then just relax when your home alone.

 

sgriffin :forgive_me?:

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SUE,

 

 

YOU ARE SO RIGHT. IT IS A MAN THANG. FUNNY THING THOUGH, IF WE DON'T "SHOP" WHAT ARE THEY GOING TO WEAR OR EAT? LOL LOL .

 

I ALSO "LONG" FOR A DAY TO DO "NOTHING." HOWEVER, I AM SUCH A PERFECTIONSIT AND "OVERACHEIVER", I WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMETHING " USEFUL" TO DO ON THE DAY I AM "OFF". GO FIGURE.

 

 

 

GOOD LUCK GIRL

 

KIM

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