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Could be worse


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Many of you know what my story lately is, After 19 years of marriage and a stroke I am getting divorced, I'm presently living on my own, loving it and basically making the most of every day that I am able to. My life is full and rich in friends. In many respects I truely think my life is more enriched and rewarding since I stroked. I have this site and a special guy in my life whom I could never get rid of. Anyway yesterday, much was put into perspective for me. I'd like to share it here.

My next door neighbor is a 77 year old dynamo named Maddie or Mat for short. She is the mother of my old bosses I worked for when I stroked. She came over for a neighborly visit yesterday and told me her cancer has returned. She had had breast cancer a year or so ago and she had beat it. So upon hearing the cancer returned, she tells me where it is. It is in her breast, lungs, Kidney's and Lymp nodes, she is just loaded with cancer cells and where the cancer has taken up residence aren't the best places for hope of a recovery. I can still see her face telling me, I've lived a good life, and I've had tragedy touch my life and bad things happen, but I want to live! I love life!

So it hit me today that at least with stroke, I Have a chance to recover, rebuild my life, and an opportunity to live every day to the fullest. My hourglass has still got quite a bit of sand left in it. Sure, I don't know when I'll die, I haven't got a clue when my time is up. But I do know I am not wasting this wake up call and wallowing in self pity, wasting each and every day. I face each day positively and a Mary Poppins attitude.

Now, I'm not writing this to pat myself on the back and say look at me! I am writing this because I hear to many survivors say things that tell me they are letting the stroke win. It could be worse. We could be about to die instead of dealing with a disability. I think I'll take the disability, thanks.

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PAM,

 

THAT IS SO SAD FOR YOUR FRIEND, BUT SHE CERTAINLY HAS THE RIGHT ATTITUDE!!!! WHAT A LADY. I BET YOU FEEL LUCKY TO KNOW HER!!!

 

 

LOVE YA

KIM

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Pam, I am so sorry I am going through the same thing with my best friend..yes after hearing her news..the disability is something you can "live" with...I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.

pash.gif Bonnie

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Pam,

 

You've really turned your life around in the past few months since your separation. I'm very happy that you're finally finding yourself again, happiness, and the self-confidence that goes along with beating not one but two of life's more challenging experiences.

 

Jean

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Pam

 

although your friend's illness is very sad, i think that both you and she show the same positive, healthy attitude. you go, girl! cocktail.gifcocktail.gif

 

sandy

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Host Pam,

To you I say congratulations on your total happiness that's shining like a full moon. I can hear your satisfaction in what you have typed here.

 

Should you get the opertune time, give my regards to your neighbor, I pray for more longivity in her life.

 

I can't see my hour glass but I celebrate life like it's full and that makes me realize your happiness in the choices you are making in your life. Hang on in there, I'm on your side of the thinking curve, no time for what could have been. I live for now happy about what I CAN do.

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