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SAD AND LONESOME


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GEE, IT'S BEEN A WEEK SINCE I BLOGGED. MY WIFE AND HER SISTERS HEADED FOR FLORIDA LAST SATURDAY BECAUSE THEIR 92 YEAR OLD FATHER WAS BAD, AND BACK IN THE HOSPITAL. SHE WAS TO BE BACK YESTERDAY BUT ON WED., THEY TOOK HIM OFF LIFE SUPPORT AND MOVED HIM UPSTAIRS TO HOSPICE.

 

ONE DOCTOR CAME IN TUES. AND WANTED TO DO A CT SCAN. MY WIFE ASKED WHAT HE WOULD DO IF SOMETHING WERE FOUND. "OPERATE, OF COURSE", HE SAID. WELL, HERE'S A 92 YEAR OLD, IN VERY BAD SHAPE, HARDLY BREATHING, AND THIS YAHOO WANTS TO DO SURGERY. MUST BE A BOAT PAYMENT DUE.

 

WED. HIS REGULAR DOCTOR CAME IN AND SAID HE WON'T LAST 24 HOURS. THURS. HIS REGULAR DOCTOR CAME IN AND SAID HE WON'T LAST 24 HOURS.

DITTO FRI. AND SAT. HERE IT IS 4 PM SUNDAY AND HE'S STILL HANGING IN.

 

SO, MY WIFE WILL BE BACK SOMEDAY. THE ONE POSITIVE THING IS I'VE BEEN ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF, AND GET READY TO MOVE, IF THE REALTOR EVER GIVES ME A CLOSING DATE.

 

I'M NOT MUCH FOR THE BACHELOR LIFE. GOOD THING THE CAT UNDERSTANDS ME. HE HASN'T LEFT MY SIDE............AND, HE DOESN'T SNORE.

 

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Hang in there Marty. Your wife needs to know you are strong enough to cope while she is away. It seems more of marathon than you expected though.

I'll be thinking of you.

Glad the cat doesn't snore one of ours used to.

Sue.

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what doctor in their right mind would operate on a 92 year old terminally ill man? he must be in a teaching hospital, and the attending wants to give his residents practice. your wife should report him to the medical society.

 

on Sept 21, 2003, my mother and i were told that my 82 year old father, who had a stroke the week before and was in a coma, had less than 24 hours to live and would probably die that night. on September 11, 2005, my 84 year old father was sitting in his wheelchair in the living room, watching wrestling on a Spanish language station (his first language), changing channels with the remote control (a first since his stroke), and telling me that my husband shouldn't feel sorry for himself because he had a brain injury. so, you never know.

 

hang in there Marty-with a cat by your side, you'll surely make it

 

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Hi Marty sorry you are loney. I'm sure your wife is missing you just as much too. Thoughts and prayers for your family.

Glad the cat doesn't snore, one of our dogs does.lol

Glad you have been so self-sufficient. I'm sure your wife appreciates all you have been doing.

Best wishes and hugs to you pash.gifpash.gifpash.gif

Bonnie

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Marty,

I don't think there is a better feeling post stroke then knowing without a doubt that you can survive on your own. Do you think that too?

Pam

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hang in there marty ole buddy ur lil wifey will b home soon sge gotta b by daddy side right now im sure u understand and its good to hear u doin ok on ur own there ole buddy have a great day there ole chap!!!so u saying ur wife snores???

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Marty,

 

My family had the same experience with my grandfather. When he was 91 he was diagnosed with kidney disease. The doctor wanted to operate. My dad and his two sisters asked how long he would live with and without the surgery. The doctor said 3 - 6 months without, 6 months - a year with. They said no surgery, The next day another doctor was there and said they were scheduling surgery. The family said they had already talked to his regular doctor (Dr. G) and had said no. The doctor was astonished and said he would speak the Dr. G about it. They never heard another work. He lived for 6 months.

 

Ask the cat to give you a hug. biggrin2.gif

 

 

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THANKS FOR THE ENCOURAGING WORDS, EVERYONE.

 

STAN, MY WIFE DOESN'T SNORE, JUST MAKES FUNNY NOISES.

 

LIN, I CAN'T KISS THE CAT. HE WON'T PUCKER

 

PAM, IT'S NICE TO BE SELF SUFFICIENT. I JUST DON'T LIKE IT. NO ONJE IS YELLING AT ME.

 

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Marty,

 

As difficult as it is for you to be without her right now, just know that she will appreciate the fact that she was able to be with her Dad those last few days.

 

We had just brought Gary home from rehab the end of Sept. last year, and two weeks later I got the call that my Dad was fading fast. We were still in the process of establishing a routine here with Gary and taking turns with my sister getting some sleep when we could, so I couldn't leave until it was time to go up to S.Dak. to bury him. I still feel guilty that I couldn't be with my Dad those last few days and that he died without any real family around him. I say "real" family because the nurses and staff at the VA State Home where he lived were all like family to him.

 

Sarah

 

 

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