I, too,tend to want to be a control freak, but this is what I've learned the hard way:

Change is a certainty.

Change forces loss of control.

We cannot control change. We can only hope to nudge along or give a small direction of the change.

Pam,

If truth were told, I think everyone would prefer to be in total control of our environments. It's safer that way. We don't have to react...we just act. We don't have to compromise; we demand compliance. We don't have to share our toys in the sand box. We equate being in control with being happy.

But I believe personal growth only comes from giving over to the fact that it is impossible to have total control over our lives. We cannot make the world always conform to our wants and desires at any given moment. Compromise has its own rewards. Sharing responsibilities has its own rewards. Playing nice in the sandbox of life has its own rewards. Letting go of total control equates to letting go of some of the high drama created by being a control freak. At first you might miss the drama, but after a while you find it makes you happier not having to always be looking over your shoulder to see if someone is trying to take your power away.

Jean

Pam,

I never realized until recently how much peace the type of control we can have within ourselves gives us. To be able to control my actions, feelings and thoughts is a wonderful thing. And at the same time learning that I have control over what I choose to let go of (the things I cannot control). Wow...it puts us on top of life instead of allowing life to lead us around with a hook through our nose. ewwww!!

So glad for you the winds of change are headed your way.

Cindy