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NOTE: The article below, DEALING WITH THE EMOTIONAL EFFECTS OF STROKE by Stephanie Davis, way originally posted by smurf. I found it buried in an old thread and I thought it was important enough to bring it back out, and copy and paste it to its own thread. As smurf said, "it's a must read for caregivers and strokers."






Dealing With the Emotional Effects of Stroke


By Stephanie Davis


When someone experiences a stroke, or related attack, the physiological consequences are not nearly so grave as they might have been 30, 20, even 10 years ago. Medical treatments have been able to greatly reduce the negative effects of stroke, and new medications and recommendations for lifestyle have also reduced both the severity and frequency of strokes in people at risk. Along with these medical breakthroughs have come rehabilitative services that have made it easier to adapt to the changes stroke can cause, such as physical disabilities and problems with thinking processes. Mobility devices, physical and occupational therapy, aids to daily living (ADLs), all these things and more are available for the stroke victim and their caregivers.


But in this excitement over development and prevention, the more enduring problem of surviving when your world has been turned upside down can be lost. And despite the improved chances of stroke victims (dying of a stroke is 50% less likely than it was 20 years ago), almost 4 million Americans are currently living with the after-effects of a stroke - 40% living with moderate to severe impairments requiring special care.


When someone has suddenly changed from an able-bodied person to one who is unable to move one side of their body, who now has difficulty communicating, who has a new tendency for emotional outbursts, exclamations over the wonders of medicine may sound a little hollow. Significant changes may take place in that person's relationships, in their feelings, in their independence. In particular, the relationship between the stroke sufferer and their caregiver may unalterably change -especially if it becomes clear that recovery may be limited. A spouse may no longer be able to work, to walk, to maintain the same kind of sexual relationship they previously had. A child may have to play the role of parent, suddenly responsible for care that may anger or embarrass their loved one. How are caregivers and their care recipients supposed to handle these changes?


Common Feelings


Considering the vast changes a stroke may bring about in someone's life, it's not surprising that negative emotions are a common side-effect. Feeling sad about lost abilities is a normal part - and perhaps a necessary part - of learning to accept the adjustments the stroke has forced you to make.


Common emotional side-effects for stroke sufferers:


* Emotional Lability (sudden laughing or crying with no apparent cause)

* Anxiety

* Grief at the loss of ability

* Humiliation

* Depression

* Apathy

* Confusion

* Memory loss

* Cautiousness

* Irritability


Stroke sufferers will have different symptoms depending on the area of brain injury. People who have had a stroke on the right side of their brain tend to experience memory problems, time disorientation and emotional highs and lows. They may also be less able to use abstract thinking, may talk excessively, may have a shortened attention span, and may be more impulsive than before the stroke. On the other hand, people who have had a stroke on the left side of their brain tend to find their language and reading abilities more seriously affected. They will also be more cautious and easily frustrated. As well, left brain injuries are most often associated with depression. Whether this is a result of the location of the brain injury, or whether it is a consequence of the difficulties in communication that these people experience, is not known. As the loss of language and reading skills can be extremely distressing, make use of experts in occupational and communication therapy. Assistive aids and therapy might help with speech, or with non-verbal communication.


It is important to note that stroke sufferers experience both physiologically induced emotions (emotions caused by the brain injury itself) and psychological emotions that are a result of the brain injury and the changes it has brought about. Experiencing grief after being disabled is understandable. To better understand what your care recipient is going through, and to better respond to outbursts which may be beyond their control, be sure to find out from your medical doctor how your care recipient's stroke might have affected their behavior.


One common result of stroke, which may be both physiological and psychological, is emotional lability, where people have sudden outbursts of crying or laughing, often without any apparent cause. As well, these episodes often end as quickly as they start, leaving many stroke sufferers and their caregivers confused and upset. Luckily, this symptom will either disappear or lessen with time.


Caregivers and care recipients will also share many of the same feelings, like fear of another stroke, or anxiety about the future in general. Although these negative emotions may seem overwhelming at first, recognize that many of them are temporary. To help alleviate some of these feelings, consider joining a support group where you and your care recipient can speak to other stroke sufferers and their caregivers.


Still, caregivers need to carefully monitor their loved one and watch for depression. Temporary grief and sadness is normal, but chronic depression is a source for concern. If you or your care recipient experience chronic depression, or find anxiety an ever-present problem, don't hesitate to seek help. Remember that your mental state has a considerable effect on your physical well-being. These conditions are highly treatable, and your doctor will have a variety of options to offer.


Even if the problem is less serious, state of mind is important. If your care recipient is disheartened and unmotivated to participate in therapy, in exercise, or even in talking with friends and family, they are much more likely to worsen. Try to gently encourage your loved one, providing them the emotional support they need, and remind them that many stroke survivors have great improvement in many abilities beginning with the first weeks after stroke and up to two years after.


In addition, keeping active with community and with friends can be an important part of emotional recovery. If the care recipient is unable to carry on with past interests and hobbies, try to find new ones. Perhaps gardening, or card playing, or volunteering at church or for your local stroke chapter. Disabled individuals often benefit from as much independence as possible, so try not to over-protect your loved one. They still may be able to drive, or to return to work after retraining, as state-run programs can help disabled people find work.


Common emotional side-effects for caregivers:


* Anger

* Guilt

* Doubt

* Impatience

* Helplessness

* Resentment

* Depression and anxiety


There are many good emotions that will result from caregiving, but negative emotions about your situation are also normal. Unfortunately, negative emotions toward your care recipient are normal as well. Rather than beating yourself up when the frustration overwhelms you, acknowledge that these feelings are part of caregiving - and they don't make you any less of a caregiver. Also recognize that it is in everyone's best interest for you to take regular breaks. To be the best caregiver, you need to rejuvenate yourself from time to time. And your care recipient needs breaks from you too!


Even if you are the primary caregiver, your family and friends need to understand that their support is needed - and part of that means supporting you. Your ability to care for your loved one is dependent upon your well-being. You need many of the same things that your care recipient needs:


* Affection and love

* Emotional support

* 'Away' time

* Exercise and a healthy diet

* Proper rest

* Relaxation time


How do you manage all this? Creating a care plan can help.


Changing Roles and Assigning Duties


Part of what makes the adjustment to a disability so difficult is the disarray it throws your life into. All of a sudden the old rules don't work anymore, and new ones need to be drawn out. This can be an extremely frustrating time, particularly for the care recipient and their caregivers. You can minimize these frustrations by drawing up a care plan.


Every family tends to have 'tried and true' ways of making decisions. Family members may also have 'roles' that give them certain duties and responsibilities. If a family member becomes disabled, one person may immediately assume the role of primary caregiver, whether the arrangement is implicit or explicit. Because the responsibility of a primary caregiver is so great, and so important, it is best to sit down as a group and openly discuss the care of your loved one. Rather than anticipating help from people, who may or may not be aware of what is expected of them, having everyone come together and talk about what needs to be done can help prevent family conflicts. Family members can also use this time to talk about their own feelings.


When holding the family meeting or conference, the different responsibilities for your loved one's care can be assigned to everyone who is able and willing. No one should be forced to accept a role unwillingly - particularly the role of primary caregiver. Perhaps one family member can be responsible for finances, another for transportation, another for housing. A back-up plan in the case of respite care, changing needs or an emergency should also be discussed. And be flexible. If the initial plan doesn't work out, hold another meeting and try to sort out the problems. Some decisions won't be easy, but working together as a family is the best solution.


If the loved one has to move in with family members, the changes that this will cause in the household need to be discussed frankly. The family may have less time for leisure and privacy. Children may also be confused by the new addition to their home. Still, if you explain the situation to children and offer ways for them to help, they may volunteer to help with certain duties, like cleaning, preparing dinner or spending time with your care recipient.


Even if one person accepts the role of primary caregiver, a role that may include housing and daily care activities, they should be able to ask for significant help from other family members. The primary caregiver will also need regular breaks from time to time, including longer 'vacations'. Other family or friends can take over care temporarily, or perhaps the care recipient can stay in a nursing home for a week or two. As well, most states have government-run programs that offer respite services.


If your family has trouble discussing these matters, you might enlist the help of a medical social worker in organizing care. Clergy members, support group members and counselors may also be able to offer advice. You can also call the Stroke Family Support Network, supported by the American Stroke Association, at 1-888-4-STROKE.


On a More Personal Level


Inter-personal relationships may also inevitably change as a result of the stroke. Your parent may resent your 'patronizing' behavior, or may be embarrassed by daily care duties like incontinence care. Or perhaps a spouse is concerned about their ability to perform sexually, or doesn't feel 'sexy' with their new disability. These can be extremely embarrassing and uncomfortable situations. Again, these are issues that might be helped by open discussion, with a clear understanding of what is and what isn't under your control. Still, outside counseling, particularly by aging care specialists and sex therapists, may be what is needed. You might also consider some daily or occasional outpatient care for your loved one, in which tasks such as changing and bathing are taken care of by a professional. Try not to 'baby' your care recipient, as this may only increase their feelings of humiliation. Let them maintain as much independence as possible, so as to help them retain their dignity. Resuming sexual activities after a stroke may require some changes to position and technique. And be sure to discuss sexual performance problems with a doctor, as medications for erectile difficulties and lubrication for problems with dryness can also help immensely. Alternatives to intercourse can also be highly fulfilling, such as massaging, touching, hugging and kissing.




Once care recipients have allowed themselves to mourn what has been lost, they will have the opportunity to rediscover enjoyment of many activities. Rather than focusing on 'recovery' as the re-gaining of past abilities - which may simply be impossible - one can instead view it as another kind of recovery, a transformative one, in which the care recipient discovers new interests, new methods of communicating and showing love, new ways of enjoying life. You, the caregiver, will have to go through this transformation as well, and it won't always be easy. But as many caregivers have expressed, both professional and at-home, it can be an incredibly enriching experience. Not all change is bad.





Stroke: Recovery - Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research.

Stroke: Emotional Response to Stroke - Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research.

Stroke: Impact of Stroke on Family - Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research.

Life at Home: Survivors & Family - National Stroke Association

Recovery & Rehabilitation - National Stroke Association

When you need a break - American Stroke Association

Taking care of yourself - American Stroke Association

You, your family and disability - American Stroke Association

Understanding Stroke: Implications for Caregiving - The Council Close-Up, September 22, 1995, Number 126. Illinois Council on Long Term Care

Adjusting to Stroke - Caregiver-Information.com




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