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BEING TESTED, AGAIN


Pwilson18

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OUR SON LEFT YESTERDAY TO GET HIS DEGREE AT CENTRAL UNIVERSITY, ABOUT 2 HOURS AWAY.IM HAPPY FOR HIM,I HUGGED, KISSED HIM, TOLD HIM I LOVE HIM AND CRIED SOME CAUSE ILL MISS HIM AND HIS HELPING ME. I CRIED AFTER HE LEFT, FOR ME SINCE ILL BE HOME ALONE!NOW DONT GET ME WRONG, IM GLAD HES GETTING HIS DEGREE , STARING HIS OWN LIFE BUT HERE I SIT HOME ALONE, AGAIN! I WAS TESTED FOR MY STROKE, MY EMOTIONS, WHAT I CAN DO AND WHAT I CANNOT DO.MY DISABILITIES AND HOW THEY CHANGED MY LIFE. I LOST FRIENDS. I CANNOT DRIVE ANY MORE.I WAS TESTED AGAIN ON MY MARRIAGE. AFTER 1 YEAR OF MY STROKE, MY HUSBANDS JOB MOVED THEM 120 ONE WAY. SO 5 DAYS A WEEK ,HE LIVES UP NORTH AND HE COMES HOME ON THE WEEKENDS. WE APPRECIATE EACH OTHER MORE.NOW MY SON LEFT YESTERDAY AND ONCE AGAIN, IM TESTED ON LIVING BY MYSELF DAY AND NITES FOR 5 DAYS TIL MY HUSBAND COMES HOME. CAN I BE BY MYSELF, THERE I GO AND DEPEND ON FRIENDS AGAIN, WILL I FALL AND LAY THERE FOR A FEW DAYS,IS MY NEIGHBORHOOD SAFE FOR A DISABLED PERSON OR IS SOMEONE GOING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME BEING ALONE ESPECIALLY AT NITE!, CAN I DO THIS OR BE FORCED TO QUITE MY 2 DAY A WEEK JOB AND MY STROKE CLUB AND LIVE UP NORTH WITH MY HUSBAND.I FEEL LIKE ,OK, YOU SURVIVED A STROKE, YOUR PART TIME MARRIAGE, NOW WITH YOUR SON GONE, WE LL SEE IF YOU CAN LIVE BY YOURSELF, GET THE MAIL, HIRE A SNOW SHOVELER IN THE WINTERS A POSSIBLE BLACKOUT! I KNOW MY MINDS WONDERING!!! TO MUCH BUT THESE ARE THINGS YOU MUST THINK ABOUT ,NOW THAT YOUR ALONE. NOW I NEED TO CARRY MY PHONE WITH ME AT ALL TIMES AND GET A MED ALERT IN CAUSE I FALL!!

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Patti: I am thrilled, as you are, for your son. I understand how difficult it was for you to see him go, but I commend your ability to send him off with a smile, love and best wishes. He too is feeling apprehension as to leaving his Mom. But you have done a wonderful thing in encouraging and assuring him that you will be fine.

 

I have a good suggestion for you for one day's project. Locate on outlet in the house, within reach of where you rest. Plug your cell phone charger in. When you are sitting: reading, watching TV; plug the phone in to be sure it is always charged but also within reach. Go through your Girlie stuff. Find a small purse or tote that will fit over your neck without choking you. Find your wallet: photo ID, insurance card and one credit card come out of the wallet and go into the tote along with your cell phone. This is around your neck all the time. At bedtime, phone gets put next to you and tote stays on bed with you.

 

Next couple of weeks you will be busy sorting out, cleaning, rearranging and you know this will be exhausting and take time, so please schedule it around your Stroke Club and work so that you have down time after that.

 

If you are comfortable taking the bus, find a local beauty shop and consider an outing to get your hair cut. There may also be a Dollar Store nearby where you would have a blast. You could have nice new placemats and napkins for hubby's night home, you might find some stuff that could help you in the kitchen, some nice new hand towels for a BR spruce.

 

Plan your week: put Stroke Support and work days in first. Plan down time mornings the days after. Work in the house or yard, read, relax, recoup. Consider doing some baking or soup making to get some stuff in the freezer for hubby's weekends. Maybe a bread-making machine. Make sure you do your exercises and read every day. Then on the free days, plan a jaunt via the bus.

 

Once you are secure in knowing that you have taken care of the safety issues best you can, you may find that you will enjoy this time until things begin to move forward towards the relocation to Florida. Let us know and try to relax and enjoy this time best you can. Debbie

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Patti:

 

I agree with Debbie fully. It is normal to feel anxious when our kids fly out of nest for first time, but as a parent its our responsibility to give them little nudge over cliff so that they learn to fly. have a routine for you for every day & you will not feel bored, you will actually look forward to your routine may it be exercise , reading, cooking or any other work.

 

Asha

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