I have been where your mother is that now she don't mean anything by it we just feel like we also alone we want to be left alone she will break out it sooner or later I used to feel like she feels just keep supporting her and she will want to do more and more thing s as time goes oni cant say she wil get over it because i don't know what mind state she is in at the moment she mite be in the i am so alone stage feeling like no body understands what she is going though but her i have felt that way but with people supporting me i got out of that rut

YOUR MOM IS A SURVIVOR AND THERE IS A LOT TO SAY ABOUT THAT I WILL KEEP YOU AND YOUR MOM IN MY PRAYERS HOPE TO SEE YOU IN THE CHAT ROOMS SOMETIME.

-WILL

Holly: honey, she is still recovering and trying to figure out just where she is at and where her life is going. Look at the positive in this, the fact that she remembered your Birthday and went to get a card. That is huge.

Go to the store, pick out a Daughter birthday card-one that she would have picked out for you and then go share it with her. Make it a happy, fun time. Read it, have her read it and then sign it. Tell her you want her to write a short line or two.

The rest will come with time and adjustment. I understand that you feel guilty in that she was left alone and probably got confused, then frustrated. This is going to happen. Next year just take one of her Grandsons with some money, drop him off and have him help Grandma. You stand by only for help. Knowing her deficits can help you help her.

Know I am praying for all of you. Debbie

Holly: honey, she is still recovering and trying to figure out just where she is at and where her life is going. Look at the positive in this, the fact that she remembered your Birthday and went to get a card. That is huge.

 

Go to the store, pick out a Daughter birthday card-one that she would have picked out for you and then go share it with her. Make it a happy, fun time. Read it, have her read it and then sign it. Tell her you want her to write a short line or two.

 

The rest will come with time and adjustment. I understand that you feel guilty in that she was left alone and probably got confused, then frustrated. This is going to happen. Next year just take one of her Grandsons with some money, drop him off and have him help Grandma. You stand by only for help. Knowing her deficits can help you help her.

 

Know I am praying for all of you. Debbie

Thank you so much Debbie! I did pick out a card but the day was very confusing so we didn't get to do much....hopefully tomorrow is a better day! And yes, there is a lot of positive in it all. Thank you for the prayers, they are appreciated.

~holly

I have been where your mother is that now she don't mean anything by it we just feel like we also alone we want to be left alone she will break out it sooner or later I used to feel like she feels just keep supporting her and she will want to do more and more thing s as time goes oni cant say she wil get over it because i don't know what mind state she is in at the moment she mite be in the i am so alone stage feeling like no body understands what she is going though but her i have felt that way but with people supporting me i got out of that rut

Thank you so so much! I guess I just don't know how much to tell people to truly leave her alone or whether to let them try being there for her. Right now I am following her wishes as I would hope someone would do for me. It has only been a few months and I think she needs the time. I have a few family members angry at me, but I can deal with that! I am glad you are out of the rut...thank you for your support

~Holly

YOUR MOM IS A SURVIVOR AND THERE IS A LOT TO SAY ABOUT THAT I WILL KEEP YOU AND YOUR MOM IN MY PRAYERS HOPE TO SEE YOU IN THE CHAT ROOMS SOMETIME.

-WILL

Yes, indeed she is a survivor! Thank you for keeping us in your prayers!

~Holly

holly:

welcome to wonderful world of blogging. Belated happy Birthday to you. As a survivor I can understand how your mom must be feeling. Family's love & support gives hope & strength to survivors to fight & reclai,their life back. your mom & your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. though first few years are hardest to deal with all changes in your life.

Asha

Thank you Asha,

I agree that things will be difficult at first. I am so trying not to base everything on just a couple of months. Things will change and I am certain we will make the best choices we can,

Take care