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Much too smart for his own good


Ethyl17

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Funny story I want to share.Like most of us, we have set back thermometers. The main house is oil heated, the addition gas heated. In the early days, post stroke, dear niece Melissa got all the "manuals" filed and organized for me. Heat regulation was always Bruce's responsibility. We kept things cool - as most do. In the early years we heated with wood. Can't be warmer than that! But then to 60 hour work weeks and a chimney fire, we were back to oil and gas.

 

With the help of the manuals, I was able to program both spaces. I can change the addition easily when Mary Beth is due in. But Bruce does not feel cold like he used to. He still feels he is overheated, yet the affected foot and hand are ice cold. I factored in extra oil in the budget and set the main thermometer at 68, on at 5am down to 55 at 8pm: Bruce hours.

 

Yesterday morning Bruce had a blood draw - fasting. Normally we would have gotten up and out when the lab opened and then gone to breakfast, but new PCP offered draw in the home - easier for me, but set Bruce off. He was up and wanted out of bed at 4am - except it is 55 degrees at best. I upped the temp, made him wait 10 minutes, then helped him transfer out of bed and into a sweatshirt at 4:30 am. Now I know Bruce fell asleep in the WC because I could hear the TV remote drop onto his table.

 

Wednesday is my double shift day at work. I take a 2 hour break at noon to come home, have lunch with Bruce, nap, shower if he wants, Estims and snack and then head back to work. I noticed the temperature change right away, but waited until Erma left to ask Bruce, who said "I don't know." Bruce's stock answer to anything. I checked the set back thermometer. Down to 66. And I am OK with that. I certainly understand the savings. But I can not have his hand and foot blue with the cold, especially when he is in his AFO where circulation is also compromised.

 

We will talk tomorrow. But tonight Bruce says "I didn't do it." I know I didn't and the caregivers certainly did not. So who did, Bruce - Kira? I know who did it. Part of me is disturbed that he doesn't remember, but he also got up too early and fell asleep. Bruce would own up if he remembered it. But the funny part is that you can not take back who he is, his essence. That much I just love. Debbie

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Debbie, that is funny. Larry would freeze though in those temps. I hate to tell you what we have ours set at. lol

 

We are roller coasting here from 70 degrees to freezing temps today. No snow - Yet.

 

Julie

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Yeah Ray is always upping the thermostat, one of the few things he will pull himself up to do himself because I fight him on touching the settings. Ours too is automatic, and is set on 68 for daytime hours, because he gets cold. I would keep it a lot lower and wear a sweater, as I did when he used to work. Anyway after Hurricane Sandy and the resultant power outage, the downstairs thermostat reverted to Celcius and I can't change it back (supposedly you hit two buttons at once but it's not happening). So I figure it out, 20 Celcius is around 68 and 21 is 70, which is his preferred temp. He didn't believe me though, apparently he thought it was really20 degrees Farenheit! And that I was the ultimate cheapskate. So I come down one day to find he had upped it to 30, which is as high as the thermostat goes. Look it up and that's 86 degrees!! Oy my oil bill.

 

Our power was out last night from when we went to bed until we left at noon today for therapy due to the high winds, and I was planning on fireplace heating with the wood from Sandy when we got home. But it came back on so we're OK for now. In the summer it's the same though, with the air conditioning. Neither of us is ever comfortable with the other's preference, nothing you can do really. It's like the Lockhorns cartoon sometimes.

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Oooops, don't know what happened to my post, but here goes again. We keep our house 63 to 65. I also get very cold hand and foot on affected side. Warm skin helps, but better are the heated gloves, socks, and slippers. Get the good ones with 7 volt lithium ion batteries, they last longer and are lighter, About $200 a set. The slippers maybe $100. www.thewarmingstore.com, Not cheap I know, but what price do you put on keeping your hands? I have also found almost any activity will help keep me warm. A good incentive to exercise! I also wear thinsulate lined blue denium pants and top. I have found keeping the core warm really helps keep the extremeties warm. I cannot tell when the foot is cold, but the hand I can. I wear a glove around the house, sometimes even the battery heated one. It warms fast and any pain quickly goes away. We live in northern MN a very cold climate. Hope this helps!

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Bruce got it going on he knows how to stay on your good side. That's the Masters touch he is displaying before your eyes now and it's convincing for sure!! I'm convinced he doesn't remember! I have that all the time then I say "Who me?" I just don't remember?

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George: thank you. I worry especially with the hand, because opposite of you, Bruce does not feel the hand at all, unless he is exercising with the good hand.

 

Bruce hates layered clothing of any type. Even if he is freezing, will strip down to basic layers. I purchase all natural fabrics, now he sleeps in flannel pants and cotton shirt and even sox, that took a long time. And I insist on a flannel shirt when out of bed in the morning until the heat kicks in. With decreased feeling in the foot and none in the arm-hand, he is just being his pre-stroke self. He seemed fine today even tho I insisted on a flannel because he had had a shower. Problem is he just can't tell me and he won't ask the caregivers, that is my worry. I just have to go by my own evaluation. I am not justifying 68 degrees. Prestroke we were at 64, but like you suggested, I would like him to have him limbs a bit longer - LOL. And as a Nurse, one of the first things I learned was that "blue" was not good - LOL. Just love that he is stepping up, showing his self, being himself. I can take care of the other stuff. Debbie

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Debbie, I know I get a bit "technical" sometimes with all my gadgets, but something else that might help raise the level of awareness for both of you for his cold hand. I have a :point and shoot" handheld thermometer I got at Radio Shank years ago for maybe $30. It uses an infrared beam and is harmless. With it I can measure the temperature of any surface from about 6" away. When my hand is cold, it measures about 5 degrees colder than the good hand. Perhaps if you had one he could as well as you monitor coldness before it causes serious trouble.

 

Just another idea from the "gizmo, gadget, guy"

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