One of the things I have learned through the journey is that brick walls have to be dismantled one brick at a time. Like consistant exercise programs it is a slow method but in the end the wall is down and your resolve and strength have made it through.

Sue.

But STILL what is beyond the dismantled wall is not what was on this side. Darn those walls!

So true.

I totally agree with what you are saying. I am just now starting to "get" it. It has been way too long, but I am trying to accept me not what I used to be. It is allot harder then anything that I have ever done before. Being honest with myself.

Ain't that the truth!

I think the biggest conquest of all is the fact that you did survive and with that life goes on and didn't pass you by. At least that's my mental mind I'll have to live with and I didn't lose my dear wife who stayed by my side totally.

You are a fighter and that is needed to survive a stroke for anyone and it keeps me going for sure.

I woke up and was alive. I was out like a light for my surviving. That was the easy part. Everything after that nearly drove me insane.

I'm a better "fighter" than I was because now I know there's more than one strategy to use.

for me learning to accept myself the way I am today was hard work, but it was so worth, I like & love new me. now I don't even remember prestroke way of doing & accomplishing things around the house, now new way is the only way & it does not matter as long as job gets done. good enough is perfect enough. so life is great once again.

hope you find that acceptance soon.

Asha

The point is that it took a long time but I have found acceptance. But to find it I had to stop trying to force a square peg into a round hole. Stroke made many of my pre-stroke dreams improbable (I don't like "Impossible") and I was happier when I started living within my probabilities

I think Bob is having this problem. He thinks he can push for things the way he did = success, and has just had a tune-up with reality.

I agree with you! You have got to face your fears and move on. Life has dealt you a bad hand but you can learn to controll your actions now!! I had my first stroke in 2006. It left me with my right arm with no movemet and my right leg down in the dumpes. My second stroke happed in 2010 due to my anurism surgery I had in Sept. of that year. I came out of it parlized from my waist down.

So now I have an electric wheel chair that I ride in.