Donna, good for you in standing up to the therapists and showing them it is not all the standard in our spouses recovery. I know he must have wanted to come home as I remember how anxious Larry was to leave the SNF. We do what we can but it is so very hard. I sometimes feel I can't do the caregiving anymore but then when I look at Larry's alternative, I could never subject it to him as long as I am able.

Good to have the PT coming in.

Donna, I'm so glad that this has worked out for you both! Let me say, that I have to watch Bob like a hawk when he eats or drinks, for one reason. He has a tendency to take a mouthful of drink or food, and then sit back. I keep telling him he has to sit forward and not lean back while eating, and I finally just stuffed a thick solid pillow behind him so he could NOT sit back! That is really his only reason to choke, but can do it constantly if I don't make sure he stays forward. I don't know if this is helpful or not, but maybe it will ehlp someone.

Donna: honey we take one day at a time and are so thankful for any time we are given. You had the test and were confident, at least for now. For that, you are remarkable! No giving up if there is some hope. I truly believe you will know when it is time.

I recently cut my work hours. Bruce is back in Outpatient therapy and has a ton of home work. Not doing anything for a year has truly set him back. But while everything is "independent" he won't do it alone, he won't do it with caregivers. But Donna the improvement in just four weeks, with me being home more it is worth it. It took two years for Bruce to get here, cognitively, but recovery is a slow go.

We respond and step up when we can. As you with Lauren. All he wants is to be in his own home and kudos to you for recognizing that and your willingness to try again.

Go easy honey, See to your health. And please hugs and kisses tonight all around. Debbie

It's true...they do do much better with us. Charlie had to be in a nursing home due to a broken hip and he was dehydrating. They claimed he wouldn't drink or eat. I would hold a cup out to him and he would gulp it all down he was so thirsty. Pureed food is yukky; I had fed him soft food which he ate readily. They did not clean him or the room up...I had to do it. Our loved ones need and trust us.

Donna: So good for you. I had my stroke 5 years ago and my wife has gone through some of what you have had to go through. It took a long time for me to become some what independent. I feel that you will be blessed for your care and help you have given him.