adapting to a new life...
Hello, my name is Amy Moua, Im new to this site. My fiance had a stroke june 7, 2012...this date will be forever remembered. My fiance was 37yr when he had the stroke. I remember a few days before his stroke, he had a root canal on #19 and was complaining how sore it felt, not thinking it could had something to do with leading to a stroke, I told him to go back and have the tooth looked at when he got the chance. On June 7th, we said good-bye, I gave him a kiss before he left to work and I was going to take my boards that same morning.
The boards was a 6hr exam, once i was inside I couldnt take my phone with me. So when I was done with the first 4hrs, I went to check my phone. I had tons of missed calls from his work and knew something had happened. When I did call his co-worker, I was told that he had a stroke! I immediately started bawling and really didnt know what to do....its difficult to relive this, makes me tear up everytime.
I did make it to the ICU and have been by his side through it all. He had a blocked left carotid artery. Til this day, he still has no movement on his right arm and it really concerns him. He's walking with a 4 point cane, he can't really flex his right foot up and is wearing a brace. He is seeing ST,OT at the moment. He hasnt been happy with the PT and refuses to go back.
I really dont have the family support that I was hoping to get from his side of the family. His parents were nasty to me, critized and watched everything that I did, just so they can talk about all that Im not doing right. I've been told by his mother that Im part to blame for his stroke becuase of all the stress he's had to deal with, finacially supporting me through Dental Hygiene school and how Im non-existant to her. SO, I've been his primary care-taker since he's moved back home with me feb. 2013, which was another ordeal in itself.
This has really been a challenge and emotional..this is my first experience with stroke and really didnt know what to do or who to turn too. He's very set in his ways which makes it difficult to talk him into doing anything no matter how much I try to explain the benefits of doing it and his emotions are to the extreme, whether he is feeling happy, sad, anger, joy or laughter. I just never know what tomorrow will be like....I pretty much have stop living my life to fulfill his. I have endured alot through this whole thing, and have stood by his side for 16yrs now. I have seen him at his worst to what he's progress to this day and still love him as much as the first day we met.
I needed an outlet to explain my story to those that have gone through or experienced what I had, so that I wont feel like Im going insane.