I don't know that 3 hours of tv is a bad thing..... I mean I never worried about watching 3 hours of TV when neither of us were stroke people. A movie takes 2.5 hours... a football game can last till it's over, if you know what I mean! I don't know, I just don't want to take something away from Bob that he had BEFORE the stroke, but of course, want him to do his necessary things to stay stronger... which he needs me to que him on if the tv is off or on - no difference. He will not initiate on his own, maybe once every 2 months he does.

Anyway, yeah, I agree, we have to accept things to make our lives keep going. Not accepting is just one more stumbling block that makes us miserable. Glad you got a plan all worked out that you are both happy with!

Yes, cooler here and still no rain. The fall colors are nice but I still prefer the warmth of spring and summer. Not looking forward to snow and ice.

You are always thinking ahead. I will have to think of projects for Larry.

Julie

Debbie, you are right, at some point we as survivors know what we can/ can't do alone after awhile. I'm like Bruce I can do what I can and the other things have to wait until my wife is home.

Kara will be lots of company for Bruce with all he can do alone he should be fine like I think I am!!

Maybe when he starts to use the computer and got the TV too his time alone will be complete for sure! I wish him all the best!!

Debbie :

if you have room in the house then time to get treadmill or stationary bike for bruce. since I am up from 6 am. I watch TV too but that while doing my treadmill & bike so its my therapy time in the morning. I feel doing those exercises has kept me happy & healthy.

Asha

I only consider what is right for Bruce. And most of this is my fault. From day one home, I made all the decisions, directed his day. That was my mistake and when Bruce finally asked several months ago to stay home alone, I knew he was at a better place in recovery. And I see the problem-solving, more layers of thinking since I listened to him and adjusted.

3 hours of incessant channel surfing is not acceptable for a man who never watched TV. Was either writing, working on his curriculum for his classes, taking classes, furthering his education. This is not acceptable. He does it because he does not know - has not been allowed - to do anything else. He still has trouble with large literary works. At one point, we were subscribed to 20 different magazines - because he was comfortable with short articles. I insisted that he take two magazines away with us. He flipped through them at the Casino - too many other things to "grab" him. But spent hours reading them cover to cover when we got home.

Asha: I am considering the wheels that sit on the floor. I don't want Bruce transferring too much alone, just yet. Get through the BR issues through the fall and then, re-eval. Right now, after nap, he does a complete 1/2 hour work out - given to him from the last PT session - alone, without prompt. That in itself is amazing.

Fred: I do hope you are feeling better. Many here are concerned. Thank you so much for checking in.

Debbie, I understand about the TV. Before my stroke, I was always reading, writing letters to my family aboard, doing word searches. After the stroke, I watched much more TV, because I could not hold a pen to write, and reading would leave me so mad,I read the same word over and over could not remember what I had read. As for word search, please, it just make me mad at what I had lost. Debbie the TV was my world to the world outside since I was home by myself, and could not go outside, it was my company.

Now I had improve, I use the compture more, read more, go for my walks . it take time as you know this.

You said Bruce, read for hours cover to cover, when he got home. That is great, I still have trouble foucusing, it just not happening, it taking me so long to reply LOL. and put what I want to say sorry.

You are a great caregiver, and strokes,is a major bump in our life's journey. So stop blaming yourself

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Yvonne