I started a post about Projects for Bruce for the upcoming winter season. He is doing great staying alone and we are considering extending the time a bit end of October. But unless someone calls during the morning, Bruce reports that after he finishes his chores, he watches TV. For all of you who may not know - I do a welfare check about an hour after I leave the house and Bruce has his chores done when I get back. Which means 3 hours of TV.
I have also reached acceptance. There is not much promise that Bruce will go down four steps to his office and start writing again. And the master bedroom up eight stairs probably won't happen. So it is time.
We have talked so often of this. I accept that I can not take all of Bruce's stuff out of this house. So I have adjusted and am having him clean out drawers. This past week - last vacation day, we did a fun shop. We now have four big plastic containers.; One is for all the photos. Bruce and I. One is for paperwork: recitals, weddings, graduations. Mary Beth advised that while not all of it is interesting to her, it may be to someone else. Again this is acceptance. Bruce has no family, some very close friends. These things need to be tossed after all heirs have their go. One is for my stuff: how fun will it be for Britt, Melissa and Liz to look at my Girl Scout uniform? There is already a box of family stuff from my Mom and Dad. Mary is not ready for it right now, but will be. And then the last, Bruce's stuff. This container I will leave handy. Bruce does so love going through all this.
All the knick knacks come down and go into the containers. Bruce was looking at stuff during the shop. But I had to explain that all the dust collectors were going and we were not adding any new. The kids will love going through this stuff - most of it is from them and they will remember giving it to us and why.
I'll have Carl bring down a few more boxes of books and then there are the bags of tools. So Mr. Bruce has his hands full for the winter. This way Bruce decides what is going and what is a save. Bruce is understanding/accepting how life has changed. The big, important stuff is not at issue right now. Tend to the little stuff.
We have a walk in closet that is now mostly Bruce's dress clothes. For the wedding, we tried on everything. Anything that did not fit, went. So there is plenty of storage room. In the Spring maybe Bruce will be ready to tackle the big stuff. But for now, this seems a good compromise.