Sue, the good thing is that you got it handled, if only temporary. And the lesson is that everything can be handled. As you know I also am a widow but I have people to call who can fix just about anything and other people who I can cry on their shoulder, even if it is the Lord. The Lord will help us all alone the way and I KNOW you believe, like I do. Bless you. (It's okay to moan) Leah

Sue you handled this, and with the help of others you will handle the next thing too. And yes, with the help of God, he is always there for you! Each time will get easier, the same way we adapted to stroke issues in our past. A new normal!

Sue, I wish there was a way to bring you to the USA and give you the chair of the deck for your tea and serenity. You and your blogs have always been so inspirational and now that you need support, the only way I can help is in the offer of tea............. John

Sue :

I know its scary feelings sometimes when we try to look too far in future & make ourselves sick with worries of whatifs. but I know this you are stronger than you think you are & God will provide you that inner strength & people in your life to get through whatever will come your way. just go with flow is my motto. yes you stay prepared for worst but then expect best & then go with flow.

Asha

No fun at all --- sorry .......... reminds me of the time - dan was home we were still on the farm having renovations done... spring time the corner of the house was all ripped up basically a small swimming pool - we were leveling for cement... and here cam a HUGE storm rain and that pool just grew, and i though oh my god the basement is gonna leak and the electrical box is right there... so i was out digging a trench , running back and forth to the window where i could see dan- checking on him , digging the trench to drain the water while it was lightning... i was at the point of well if god strikes me then i guess it was my time ( i had told family in town to call and check on me every so often if no answer come and take care of dad) - to their credit they had no idea what a huge undertaking it was , but by the time they would have gotten out to the farm they would be to late to have really done any good.. it was a do it, and fast type of thing.... you are strong - Sue --- we all are , we are still standing.... a little broken, but standing...

Sue: we talked in Chat last night about the new responsibilities being a Caregiver involves. And there is no way any of us signed on for this. I don't want to know about dirty, clogged gutters, trees coming down, squirrels eating through gas lines in the truck. But I do. Bummer!

What you are probably panicking about is the fact that you no longer have Ray to back you up - in any condition. He still knew and could talk you through it. And for that I have no basis because Bruce is still here. He can at least advise who to call. And that is part of the support system - whatever it involved - that is missing.

When we had the freak 30 inches of snow in 24 hours, everyone in the neighborhood had to adjust. My poor Gloria, across the street was away. Her new Sunroom was in danger and the beautiful bay window in the front of the house. I knew to call my Contractor - heck he was coming here anyway - LOL. But after 20 years of widowhood, she was in tears on the phone. All she could talk about was missing her Brian.

Just time honey and in all fairness, there obviously will be times when even the strongest and most accepting will falter. No one was home, no one hurt. For that I know you are thankful, but there is still the mess and the fixing. Trev can advise there, but in the end you will feel stronger making the decisions yourself. And Ray still sits on your shoulder and says "Good job my girl!" That I know. Debbie

Sure took your mind off being alone didn't it! Glad things worked out and see, you're not alone.

Sue, I think when something like that goes wrong it is scary for all of us. We have to take care of so much without any extra problems arising. I remember when my first husband passed, I lived in a close knit neighborhood then. We had an ice storm that caused my pipes to freeze and burst. That was terrifying. I called the neighbors and two of the guys came and fixed things. It seemed every thing that went wrong was magnified in my mind as I didn't know what to do.

I have a neighbor who's husband has Parkinsons. He is doing fine right now but she is preparing for when it might get worse. She is learning to reconcile the checkbook, pump gas into her car, etc. They even have brought the washer and dryer upstairs into a remodeled extra bedroom.

I fear when storms come also. I keep thinking what will I do if the windows blow out or what if we blow away before I can get Larry to the basement during a tornado?

Your emergency people will help I'm sure as well as your family. It's good you are in good health and can stay safe.

Bless you and take care,

Julie