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is it nature or nurture


HostAsha

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I always wonder about how kids turn out to be, is it nature versus nurture. Some days while raising our only child I feel its nature nothing we can do will make him change his ways like procrastination or not being organized lol and arguing that ofcourse I blame hubby's genes.& on some good days when he comes out & does right things which are making right choices like studying for his tests & acing in them when he studies for it. that also I feel is his nature nothing we have done to that.I never feel you can take credit or blame for any of your kids actions. As a parent you do your best then its their choices & consequences. I just pray that its not major mistakes which can change their life path significantly. I was so shocked to find out that in his sleepaway camps there were lot of kids who were doing alcohol & drugs, and offering to other kids. I am glad kido is smart enough to know how to stay away from bad elements. it is funny how his disorganized room & clothes everywhere but in laundry hamper used to get me so mad & when he was in the camp those were the things I missed lol. Now he is back & I feel my life complete.

 

Asha

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Asha, I whole heartily agree with Debbie above!! The mother eagle teaches the young ones to fly before they leave the nest and they are taught how to hunt and not become the hunted!! They pay attention and know how to use their wings and what to hunt for on the ground!!

 

In many cases they watch mom bring back to the nest what they partake in eating as she feeds them!!

Your son knows to stay away from certain things he knows are bad for him and even other kids and that lets you trust him even more!!

 

I was raised like that by my mom and I turned out pretty good!!

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Asha, like I keep on telling you, you and hubby teach him the right way. You show him how to respect himself and others, to have family vaules, and know what is right and what is wrong. Like Debbie said, you got to let then fly and pray that they soar. He will because you gave him the correct flight path!

 

Listen, my son went out with his friends to enjoy his 21 birthday. None of them drove, they got a cab, because my son told me" Mom that is the smart thing to do" I felt so proud!!! LOL

 

Yvonne

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