Kelli,

I wish I knew what to tell you, I don't, I'm married the fourth time and finally got the right lady so I can say just don't give up because grief and guilt can hurt you when you could be happy with the right person!!!!

Just My Opinion!! 

Hi Kelli,  I agree with Fred.  After my first  marriage which was 16yrs, I was so  bitter. Told myself that I needed to be by myself.  My trust was shot.  Then a wise women told me 

(my Mom) that bitterness can make your heart be hard and unhappy and this can make you

miss out on a good person.  She was right like Mother's are.  My husband love my smile and 

my spirit. We have been together 25 and married for 21!  

Take a change, just go out to have fun, and you never know.

Love and Hugs

Yvonne 

I am finding the same Kelli, I want to have a companion, don't want to go through the steps that lead to that.  I have been on a couple of lunch dates with a man I have known for a long time  but was ready to take flight at any sign that it was more than lunch out.  I guess I was married for 44 years, life was predictable and starting a new relationship would take me out of my comfort zone and put me on quaky ground. And I am just not prepared for that.   I guess like everything else in life we learn by taking baby steps. 

Sue.. spot on. I wish the best for you. It's like I don't want to go through all the basics again and potentially frighten someone off. 

Thank you Yvonne and Fred 

understand kelli. the question I ask myself is "do I really want someone around"  I am a lots older than you and the answer I get most emphatically is no thanks, I have lucy my cat whom I love and may in her little way love me.

kind regards

david

You all are truly wonderful spirits and if you aren't scooped up yet then you haven't met up with the right kindred one yet.  I personally hate the formality of dating like hello do you like me when in fact what can you really know after one dinner except that one may not have the right cologne or table manners to suit me so I say to my young spirits into dating to just go live and in the midst of living life you may happen to cross paths with someone with similar interests passions and who completes your sentences or something to that effect that they are the one.  so that isn't scary is it and you have plenty of time to meet who they know and see who they are in little interactions when they are not trying to impress anyone.  At least for me that is real and if I don't meet that special person then at least I am doing things I enjoy beyond the computer screen and meeting people.  Like a job it is easier to discover who I don't want to be with faster than the special one but that is progress as Edison would argue.  it is win win then because then one builds a life even if not a relationship.

And cheers to the Lucy who I am sure loves unconditionally even if dinner is a little late.

And that was my wooden nickle's worth.