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Have I learned the Secret?


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So here we sit, six months and a couple of days after his stroke.

 

Have I learned the secret? The key to happiness in this new life? A life I never expected would happen to me?

 

We would be at each other, nit picking over whatever, every night. I know the kids (that we moved in with) were growing weary of it.

 

I asked him what we could do to get through this.

 

He said it was all up to me.

 

My God, did I fight that!

 

Why should it be up to me? "I" didn't have the stroke. It wasn't "MY" mind that was affected. Nor was "I" the one suffering from fatigue and confusion.

 

But, oh my gosh! I have discovered he was right.

 

"I" am the one who has to try harder. "I" am the one who has to give 90/10. "I" am the one who truly has the power to make it a good day or a bad one.

 

Not fair.

 

But were we ever promised that life was fair? I think not.

 

It's the life I chose nearly 37 years ago. I one I choose daily to stick with. The one that, for better or for worse, "IS" my life.

 

 

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I know I sometimes get overwhelmed especially when trying to "multitask" or just to much input..information is coming at me.. I do not process as fast and to many things trying to get into my brain do not process properly..I then tend to get "cranky" ..John, tends to take off to another part of the house or whatever, and I need to go for a walk or play with one of the dogs and "chill" out...I think we are both learning signals, or he is learning my signals as it can just come on and it almost "panic" mode..do not ask me one more thing..

I don't think he has to give 90% and I only 10% I try to do my share of household chores, etc.. these times are more apt to happen if I haven't slept well or am overtired. I don't know if this helps or gives you something to think about or compare to..

It is hard to explain what goes on/or doesn't go on. You know you should be able to handle this type of thing or at least you did before, but it is more difficult with an injured/healing brain.

I am sure it can be frustraiting for you at times, but it is for the survivor also..and sometimes difficult to say or explain..

Bonnie

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No,

I think the secret is......

Enjoy every moment of life, cause you never know when you'll die. Only choose to fill your days with meaningful things and cut out the excess that doesn't matter. Basically it is quality over quantity.

Pam

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