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The distant past


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I needed a subject to blog about and the past is the only thing I could come up with. The past is on my mind. More specifically someone from the past; someone I once dated. It was twenty plus years ago and I dumped him for some infraction I don't even recall the details of. He is a few years younger then me.

My older brother ran into him a few weeks back. Seems he had a brain tumor removed from his brain and he inquired after me, my brother told him about my Aneurysm and stroke.... he gives my brother his number and tells him to make sure I call him. Well.... a live one that isn't online and found his way to me. So have I called him? Nah, I forgot about it till this morning. Then I thought, no thanks, been there, done that years ago. Until my friend Jim started hounding me and challenging me about calling him. Dammit, there are times I have a big mouth. Well that isn't headline news. Ha.

So I tell Jim, nope, not calling him, he's never been married, still lives in his parents house, still in the same small town, plus he remembers the person I USED to be. I'm not the same person I once was, I have gray hair and I'm not a size 3 anymore. Nope, I'll clasp vanity as my reason to be a twit and a coward. Not calling him..... well I did call and leave a message on his answering machine, with my number. Balls in his court. Would you have called an old boyfriend/girlfriend?

 

Like how desperate does that sound? No matter how bad it sounds, I did it with all intents and purposes as being open to a different experience and it makes life interesting. With that being said, end of subject. Period.

Pam

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Pam

 

Being desperate or not has nothing to do with it. You two were both kids twenty years ago. You are strangers who once had a connection. It's kind of fun to see what happens to people with time and life wearing on them.

 

Jean

 

P.S. Don't hold never having been married against him. biggrin.gif

 

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It's always good to make a new friend or re-acquaint yourself with an old one. At the worst you'll just re-hash old times. But sometimes it can be a great experience and somehow connect you back to the girl you once were.

Sue

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I wouldn't hesitate to call him Pam. What have you got to loose by communicating with him.It might be exciting to bring up the past for both of you.

I also think that the fact he hasn't ever married should not stop you from having contact with him.

Keep us posted!

lorrainelm

 

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I think I would call him too.

It would be fun talking on the phone with each other/or setting up a meet.

I don't think anyone is still the same size 3 wild chick they once used to be:)

-Amy

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Sister Pam

 

does he still live with his parents? i would be more concerned about THAT then him never being married...

 

thenn again, John was married and divorced when i met him, but always lived with his parents. i STILL worry about that, and we've been married for almost 3 years.

 

i would alk to this person and see if he's progressed emotionally from when you broke up with him. if he hasn't, relegate him to your Christmas Card Only list.

 

sandy giggle.gif

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Sister Sandy,

Thanks for the laugh and the sisterly advice! I burst out laughing reading your reply.

Pam

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