In regards to Larry's post about "normal" activity:

My husband is three months post stroke and I struggle a little less each day with the pre-stroke/post-stroke thoughts. Each of us, survivors and care givers get through our stroke (some multiple strokes) at our own pace. It has taken me some time to understand how complicated the brain is and thus how strokes individually affects each person. What may be a frustration to a survivor such as having to stay home and not be able to work - could be seen by a caregiver as something they would love to be able to have. My husband and I both lost our choice to work. He now can't work, and I now have to work. It is imparative to me that there never becomes a contest of who has it the worst. Usually when that topic comes up - it is a signal that somebody is suggesting one stop complaining. I never lose sight of the fact that physically I can get away from my husbands stroke and he can not. He is the one truely stuck with it! I could pack up and leave tomorrow to get away from his stroke - and he doesn't have that option. With all that said, my suggestion is to do what ever one needs to look forward. If that means to view the grass as greener next door, so be it. I may not chose to view life in that fashion, and I may remove myself from your company while you do it, however I won't condem you for it.