I just read a post by vanillamoon - and it gave me a reminder of why I'm here and how valuable this site is. She described a stroke (she as survivor) as "an earthquake in her head". I can relate to that analogy, being from Alaska and experiencing more earthquakes than I can count over the past 40+ years (including the 9.2 in 1964). Her description really got my attention, and gave me shivers - it was just a little wake up call and reminder of how it must be for my husband. Being able to consider how things are "on the other side of the fence" really is important for a successful survivor and caregiver relationship. Thanks for the analagy VM, it is truly appreciated. Now I have to go give my husband a hug and tell him how important he is to me......