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justsurviving

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I know that I am a little punked out because of med mix-up (I forgot to take my Effexor & Aggrenox yesterday), but I have been wondering lately how long stroke related stuff will be on my mind. I want it gone. Now.

 

Ugh, it is still here, dangit!

 

I was talking to someone about my frustration that I am unable to do certain things. He sat thoughtfully for a moment, pulled out a notepad, and wrote "YOU HAD A STROKE" on it. I hated it. I don't want it anymore. I don't want to blame everything on it anymore. I'm tired of being tired and feeling guilty for wanting to rest, relax, or sleep. It almost pushes me to the point of anger - at the stroke, at the situation, at myself, etc.

 

Yeah, this can be construed as a pity party & I truly apologize if that is what is being conveyed. I seem to be waiting for it to just go away already. I don't want to identify with it (the stroke) since I am at the far end of the continuum of looking more normal (but of course NOT normal) than being completely paralyzed & stroked out. Why can't I just be that extra step to normal than here? blast! :ranting: This in no way is simplifying or meant as an offense in any way, shape, or form to those who are on the opposite continuum - it is simply my burden right here and now.

 

In the same idea - if missing one day of meds makes me feel this way & I don't want to be on these meds for stinkin ever, will I feel like this again once I get off them (in Oct)? UGH!

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Hi Sherri,

 

Although I can't relate to having a stroke as I'm a c.g., but I do know the effects reach us as well. In regards to a pity party, PULEEEZ. That's why we are here to vent when we need to and get things out. I think it may be the same for us all some up days and some down.

 

I also take Effexor for depression and I had a hysterectomy about a year ago so it helps with the side effects from that. If I miss a day I'm a mess. Extremely emotional etc. I've had to learn to turn my thoughts elswhere and focus on helping someone else because it usually gets me out of being inward.

 

As far as how long? I don't know the answer to that but my husband has gotten so much better since his stroke in Jan. 2003. For me it's always there, just not IN MY FACE as much any more.

 

I hope you'll be better soon. Take care, :console:

 

Cindy

 

P.S. I used to yell and scream at the top of my lungs while riding in my car at the stroke. Or write in my blog how much I hated it. Somehow it made me feel a little better.

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HI, I really do understand your frustration as I am a 20 yr. survivor, and I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but just as I am stuck with the side effects from my stroke FOREVER :Tantrum: , sorry, but yours will be forever, too -

Its not easy, but by taking a positive attitude, it does make it easier to deal with :giggle: -

I suggest you get real busy so as not to transfer your frustrations to your loved ones

GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS

June :bop:

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Not only am I afraid of that, June, I am also afraid that I will never completely just flat out accept that I will never be normal again. Ever.

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hi sherri:

 

acceptance does not mean you are saying this is how its going to b forever. acceptance is you accept your fate today and live in a moment not worrying about future, who knows what tomorrow will bring, start counting your blessings and you will feel lot better

 

Asha

 

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I want to add to what Asha said. Fate is always out to get you!

 

Ray has had five strokes so I wish we could turn back the hands of time till before the first one. But with my luck fifteen years ago I would have been run over by a big red bus!! :death:

 

Sue.

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