"Frustration of not being more independant is getting to me"

Ken, this was Ray for the first 18 months or so after his major strokes, then he had another one, maybe caused by the frustration and anxiety. He rebuilt so much only to lose it again. So go easy on yourself. It is slow to recover from a stroke. Muscles rebuild slowly, attitudes change slowly, acceptance of the way things are going to be now and into the future comes slowly. There is no rushing it.

We live the best life we can given Ray's limitations and particularly his energy levels. We are going to sell a lot of tickets in the Lions Club Christmas stocking in our local shopping centre between now and Christmas. That is our way of working now, doing something for the community.

Cheers mate, Sue.

Ken:

given magnitude of effects of stroke, it is alright to go through ups and downs in rollercoaster, but I am happy you realise what you need to work on to feel better, I think more you will do at home in controlled environment, you will feel better about yourself. BTW try to walk nassisted inside home, and outside you can use cane.

Asha