Eureka, Success finally, I found a purse I like and bought it today. Funny thing is I've been to this store 2 other times and didn't see this one before so it must be new. OH, I'm so happy and relieved, I was beginning to think I needed to change my idea of what I would accept. This is such a trivial thing in the big scheme of life but it's fun and rewarding to have that conflict resolved.