place your ear ring in the hole and bend your head in such a way that the ear ring won't fall out. now take the butterfly and without moving your head place it on the ear ring post. I start with my right ear. Do the same with the other ear. to put butterfly on you have to go around your head without moving your head. I hold the butterfly with thumb nd index finger and with the rest of the fingers I hold the earring and the ear so that I don't push the ear ring out.I sit down to do this as for me, I have more patience when I sit to do something complicated but thats me. Make sure you have lots of time and you are relaxed. In a rush you will most likely leave with only one ear ring on. Also I do it in front of a mirror. though I can do without. This will take practice until you find a way to do it, which might be a bit different than what I described here. Hey! whatever works for you. good luck ladies.

mc