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Life goes on


dstraugh

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I can't believe it was March 11 that I posted my last entry. Gosh 2 months. I'm such a slacker LOL. Much has been going on around here - some good, some not so good. But that's life huh - chock full of ups and downs. We must or must try to learn from the down periods in order to better cope with them in the future. I do count my blessings that the downs are not worse but it still does not make them any easier to handle.

 

In my last entry I discussed issues that I was experiencing with my daughter. In some respects things have improved, in others not, in yet others a work in progress. Kristi did finally open up to her school counselor as well as the school psychologist regarding her behaviors. I too had conversations with both of the "professionals". For the most part, she is a great kid - super grades and looking towards her future.

 

Her behaviors tended though to start a spiraling affect and needed to be addressed before there were serious ramifications for her. We were referred to the STAR program (serious teens at risk) in our area. We both had to appear for her 4 hour psychological evaluation. Results were that she is experiencing severe depression and she has bi-polar tendencies (inherited from her father).

 

I was advised she may or may not fully develop bipolar; at least it's out in the open now and we can address it rather than guessing. Kristi has been assigned to a therapist at STAR for 1:1 counseling rather than group counseling. After speaking with Kristi and I together, the Psychiatrist agreed no meds at this point; that may change to mood stabilizers which do not have the same side affects as anti-depressants in teens.

 

Prior to this, our PC had placed her on anti-depressants and they made her worse instead of better. Now, it's a day by day thing; fortunately she does open up to her therapist and relates issues to her to address them.

 

As to me, as Pam has been studying changing beds 101, so have I. As I have a king size bed it was quite hysterical. I honestly felt that someone at any point was going to announce "Smile you're on Candid Camera". Can't say I've mastered the feat but it got done - not quite ready for my diploma yet LOL :rolleyes:

 

Also have been doing some spring cleaning as well as deep bathroom cleaning. I felt good to be able to maneuver and get things done "my way" versus the way a teen would do them. I've even ventured as far as to cleaning out litter pans (prepping myself for when Kristi is in AZ for a week in June and I'll be caring for my fuzzy ones on my own) Missions have been accomplished without me falling head first into litter pans :happydance:

 

I once again discovered that weebles do wobble AND fall down at times and...do not bounce back up. I was in the kitchen taking care of the trash bag and smashing up boxes to put into the bag. All was going well until I began to lose my balance and kurplunk to the kitchen floor I went. In retrospect, I think the bad leg was the cause as it did not do what I wanted it to do.

 

There I was sitting on the kitchen floor thinking no what do I do - of course I was home alone except for Crystal and Lili. I realized I was not going to be successful trying to use a kitchen chair to get up as the chair would slide on the tile floor. I scooted backwards (on my back as I couldn't scoot while sitting on my rear) into the dining room. Crystal appeared at my shoulder starting down at Mommy. When I asked her if she was coming to help me, she nudged me with her head. She stayed with me while I headed for my computer desk and chair. Fortunately I have a very old fashioned sturdy cherry wood desk. I was able to get up on my knees and place my left foot solidly on the floor. I was then able to boost myself upward from the bad leg (first time in 4 years) and get to my desk chair. Thankfully it did not move on the carpet (on wheels of course LOL). As I sat on the chair, regrouping, my "watch kitty" came over to me to be sure Mommy was ok. Not a feat I want to try any time soon but I did it!!!

 

I was quite sore for a few days and did experience some bruises.

 

A few days after that episode, I had problems as I attempted to walk to the local convenience store. Thankfully Kristi was home. I called her from my cell phone and she came flying down the street to help me and get me back home. She had been on the phone with my brother and when he heard I was having troubles, he got in his car and came to my aid as well. I did not fall but it scared the dickens out of me as I was so close to going down - again.

 

I'm looking forward to attending a walkaide foot drop evaluation clinic on June 3rd. Oh to be able to get rid of the AFO and wear real shoes (slip ons) again would be heavenly :cloud9: . I know it will be a work in progress but it will be worth it if I can qualify and if my insurance will cover it.

 

I just changed medicare supplemental insurance companies and it was (so far) the best decision I could make. I had heard an ad on my local radio station, wrote down the number and called. So far, I've experienced savings from what I've had to dish out of pocket compared to the old company.

 

This past week I received a fantastic surprise from my Brother. I had asked him for a ride to and from a local beauty shop to get my hair cut and permed (makeover time :roflmao: ) He took me, not where I planned to go but to another salon where he knows the owner. As we walked in, he told Louie to give me the works and that cost was no option Bro's treat. I received a cut and a perm - was there for 3 hours being pampered - way cool. I go back this week for color and highlights. I tried to reimburse Bro for it and he told me it was "free" - yeah right LOl I'm brain damaged not brain dead. I heard the charges and saw the credit card being used.

 

Once I'm all madeover, my profile picture will be updated.

 

Another first for me, I'm walking a tad bit more outside the house without using my hemiwalker. Trying to step out of the comfort zone more. I have the walker with me though but carrying it and only put it down if I feel wobbly (as I've proven, this weeble can and does fall down :oops: )

So...that's what's new in my life. Until we meet again :beer: and :out_of_here:

 

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hey Donna:

 

thanks for the update. I am happy that you are keeping close eye on Kristi & resolving problem before it becomes too huge to solve. you are great mom. I can't wait to see new makeover. you also have good brother, congratulations on able to get up from floor. once you achieved that feat falling down is no more scary any more.

 

BTW next time update us every month or biweekly.

 

Asha

 

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hi there girlfriend, i am so proud of you in what you have accomplished thus far. i'm praying you qualify for the walkaide system, then there will be no holding you back!! just be x-tra careful til then to not go boom. thank goodness kristi and joe came to the rescue on your trip to the store. you are a great mom to kristina to get her the help she needs for her issues. she is a good, smart and good looking gal that just needs some guidance. i'm sure all will be better soon for both of you. i can't wait to see the new you. i do know how you feel after a trip to the salon, it really helps our self esteem, huh. who knows you might get picked to be on the cover of a magazine, woo-hoo, you go girl.

love n hugs to you and kristina. and the fur babies too. keep us updated.

 

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Hey, Donna!

 

Wow, have you ever been busy! And to emerge with your sense of humor and sanity intact, well...here :beer: :beer:

I'm glad that Kristi has a program of that caliber available to her and that you (loving and supportive mom that you are) are right there participating with her, that makes all the difference. Parental involvement may actually be a requirement but I'm sure you'd be there even if it wasn't. Like you said, things are out in the open and she's moving in the right direction. She's such a smart girl, she'll be fine. :thumbup: My brother is the Assistant Superintendent of schooks in a few area districts and I'm sure that it comes as no surprise that there are plenty of heartbreaking/infuriating situations occurring all the time because the parents don't see the importance..

 

Congrats that you were able to get yourself back up from your fall all by yourself and that your injuries weren't any worse--just be careful, okay?? June's going to be a busy month for you, sweertie :D When do you find out that you qualified and about your insurance?

 

As to litter pans and bed changing, I have had "litter pan duty" down pat for awhile, and as far as our "bed changing" skills are concerned--neither one of us is "Ready for Prime Time" but we did it so you get your diploma, too!

 

Your brother sounds like the type of brother any girl would want--how sweet!! After all is said and done you're going to look and feel like a million! Couldn't happen to a more deserving person, I'm very happy for you!

 

Pam

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Donna,

I wish we lived closer and I'd do your makeup to go with the new "do." For whatever reason, I've had a life long interest in makeup and became certified by most of the major lines (Aveda, Estee Lauder, Lancome, and etc.) about 10 years ago. Unfortunately, I passed this hobby along to both of my daughters.

 

Love your new blog. I get the feeling you are gearing up for when Kristi goes away to school. Hopefully, you can qualify for the Walkaide and your insurance will cover it. This will make a huge difference in your life.

 

My thoughts are with you and Kristi. Recognition of an issue and doing something about it is a huge step.

 

Donna, you are so beloved by many on Stroke Net. You always offer the right words and respond in a timely fashion. One of these days (and hopefully sooner than later) you will meet someone who shares the values. Why do I have a feeling the new color and highlight is only the beginning.....

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Donna,

 

Good to hear that you and Kristi are working on the issues as we all know the teenage years are very challenging for both parent and teenager.

 

I'm hoping you qualify for the walk-aid so you don't have to wear the AFO. Gary won't wear his unless I absolutely insist because I don't want him to sprain or break his ankle when he can't control the drop foot during transfers.

 

Hooray for you for gaining more independence, but please don't overdo it and injure yourself in the process.

 

Sarah

 

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Donna,

It's great Kristi is getting the intervention and help she needs. it will make a big difference ~ great...inherited it from her father disclaimer lol.

Hope you get the Walk-aid there's only so many plops that poor little tushy can take, be careful.

Good for you with some pampering and the make over. You deserve it. Enjoy, savor and suck up every minute of it!

Love ya,

Maria :mwah:

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