hi Angel:

I am sorry for your loss. not all strokes are due to bad habits. "bad things can happen to good people too". I stroked at age 34 after pregnancy i never smoked or drank alcohol. I struggled lot post stroke trying to find out why this bad thing happen to me what did I do wrong to deserve this. till I realize bad things can happen to everybody its how I react to situation will determine whether I live my life as a victim or survivor, and I am proud to be called survivor came out of that black phase in my life with lot of hardwork. Sometimes *beep* just happens in life, and we have to deal with consenquences of it. that's why I believe in destiny.Sorry for becoing philosopher here. but I know what a struggle it was for me to adjust to my life post stroke as a complete new person.

Asha

My Dad also passed away from stroke because he had a heart condition that could cause clotting. My Dad did everything that he was supposed to do, he ate well and took his meds. He could not tolerate the drug that would thin his blood however. This most likely caused his demise. I would always tell him taht we needed to go to a good cardiologist, one that could maybe give him options for his heart condition. He kept putting it off...he was doing okay, his doctors gave him the thumbs up a few weeks before he died as a matter of fact. Like someone else said God knows when it is our time to go. For all you know your dad may have had the stroke no matter what he did. I also blame myself at times for not being more active in getting my Dad to second opinions.....but at this point there is nothing I can do about that. Your father would want you to go on and be happy. please try and find pleasure in simple things every day. My Dad died in April and there isn't a day that goes by that my heart doesn't hurt for him....others that have lost a parent to stroke will tell you the same thing. In time hopefully you will stop blaming yourself.