I received a call today from a fellow stroke survivor.I'll just call her Kay for here. We share a bond of having had our strokes the same day and were in the neuro ward a few rooms apart for about 5 weeks. We both had a right hemi strokes and similar initial damage. I've come along a little better than her so far and we have very different temperaments. We both had the same hospital care and she tells horror stories and I can only relate one mildly inept encounter with an aide that didn't like her job. Our perceptions are polar opposites. We went to the same outpatient rehab for the last 16 months or so She recently was discharged because of Medicaid rules. I understand her being upset and angry about that. I felt frightened when my 90 insurance alloted therapy sessions ran out the first time.
I get along with Kay, we can commiserate on a lot and laugh at some of the darker aspects of this mess. But then the complaints start. The bad therapists, Doctors, care assistants...ad nauseum. I listened to about 15 minutes of it today and my own mood was brought down and I felt some real annoyance with her. I've asked her daughter if her attitude is just since the stroke and she said, no...mom's always been difficult. If this were a well person, I would avoid them;but she's not, and understanding company is hard to come by, even when you're independent and easier to be around. So I want to remain in limited contact with her but I want to cope with her better. Suggestions appreciated.