Dyan: he must have been so excited! Good day! and loads of fun. Debbie

He was more excited about where they had the party and the word "party" than the actual party......

Dyan:

hopefully more interactions he will have, better he will become with parties.

Asha

I'm with Asha on this, I think the more parties he goes to the more he will understand and get into the action.

Blessed be those who see beyond Cayden's disabilities to the fine person he is.

Sue.

Thank you Asha and Sue,

I hope you are right. All his friends in school really like him and they dont concider him different and the birthday girls daddy loved the dickens out of him...He likes Cayden alot and they talk every time he takes his daughter to school. Everyone else there felt sorry for him and thats not what I want but they dont know the whole story about Cayden yet. What can I say to get them to understand and not pity him. I dont want him pittied because he doesnt even know that he is different and that he has disablities. This is his norm and I want to keep it that way....When he is older and starts asking I will tell him but I want him to know that he is special and that he is loved no matter how he started his life out. Me and daddy wanted him when we thought he was perfect and we want him now that we know he isnt 100% perfect......TO US HE IS PERFECT!!!!!! If the others dont see that then they dont deserve to know him.

Dyan

Dyan:

people who are scared of thinking what would they will do had they had that disability & that's what makes them pity disabled person. Its their insecurity which needs to be pitied. Cayden is enough & perfect the way he is & you as a parents will be forefront of that message. I know right after my stroke I used to think people pity me, not anymore. now I know how strong I have become & I must inspire them to do better in their life. I don't know is it my perspective that has changed or people, I know I can not control what others think of me, but I can control what I think of myself. & I know I have become amazing & resilient person post stroke. I never knew I had that strength within me.

hugs,

Asha

Thank you Asha,

That makes me feel so much better about the others pitying him. I know he knows nothing about others but I dont know if Im paranoid abuot it or if they really do pity him. I love him no matter what and in my eyes and the Lords he is the most perfect Cayden!!!!! I know the Lord sent me Cayden the way he is for a reason and I thank the Lord every night for letting me have this wonderful boy for one more day. He is great and he shows me that if he can live with his disablities then I can live with mine as well.....of course Im still paranoid about my own......lol

oh dyan that is so good to hear and with more parties to go he will start to get into the action just to get hisd feet wet, your son will do well you will see sounds like your son has a very strong charicter

Yes Cayden is fighting this stroke with all his might. I thank God that he gave me such a special lil man!!!!! I felt guilty to start out with but the more people I talk to here I see that he is right on track.....yes it is for a two year old and he is four but being developmentally delayed he is right where he needs to be and I am so proud of him!!!!!

I am proud of all of you fighting what yall have to go through as well and keep up the good work all of you!!!!! Thank you all of you for helping me with my son and letting me know what he is experiencing with the stories you tell here.....

Dyan